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So its become apparent me and my ex very much still have feelings for each other. We broke up cause needed to work on himself and was scared he's hurting me. If it comes up. Hoe bad or good of an idea do you guys think it would be to go out with him again? I've always been against on again off again so im scared of that situation. But I can't deny my feelings for him. We went togother like peanut butter and honey
There's a saying I've heard about this that has stuck with me... "Going back to an ex is like trying to shove poop back into your butt", lol. I think in most situations, there's some truth to that.
However, only you can really accurately judge whether or not you think it's the right decision for you. Use your judgment, try to see it for what it is and not through rose colored glasses (try to look at it as if this were any other person and their ex in the same situation asking you this question, what would you tell them?)
I love how everyone here is relying on old sayings to tell you what to do. I'll tell you a bit of my experience with getting back with an ex.
First, my parents were separated for 12 years and got back together last year. They've never been happier. My dad has made some significant improvements and has done a lot to make up for his past mistakes. My mom has tried dating other men and it always failed and left her unhappy.
Second, I went back with my boyfriend of 2 years who left me because he was in a bad spot mentally. We have both grown as individuals since then and I don't regret my decision at all. We're still happy together :)
Listen to YOUR feelings, don't rely on what some strangers on the Internet are telling you (including me). Just ask yourself this:
If you do decide to try to get back together with him, what's the worst that could happen? And if you decide to move on, what's the worst that could happen? Which outcome do you prefer?
He needed to work on himself and was afraid he was hurting you? What does this part mean? Was he flaking out on dates? Is he mentally unstable? Abusive? A cheater? A moocher? If he's any of these, it's best not to get back together.
He was excellent right till the end. We had plans and he stood me up the last time we were supposed to meet. A month later he broke it off. Normally though he was insanly punctual and just great. He was afraid hed hurt me emotionally while he goes through whatever it is he thinks he needs to go through
I know. Thats always been my thought as well. But it was a clean break. Something I definitly didn't want in the first place. Shoot I still sleep with the stuffy he bought me when we first started going out. I remember him saying the stuffy will take over for him whenever he's not around.
People always tell me how much they enjoy talking to me etc cause of how open minded I am and that it feels special or whatever. Ive never felt anything like that till him.
I know I should listen to you guys. I remember the last time I didn't but if the opportunity comes up I dont know if ill be able to say no
Hang on a minute... I didn't realise it was you... is this the guy you were living with who was abusive?
Oh heavens no! I barley even talk to him anymore. No about 10 months ago I started seeing a new guy. It wasnt planned and I wasnt looking but hevwas cute as hell charming likes books etc. We really hit off and started going out. Everything was great. About a month ago He ended up breaking it off though as he said he needs to work on himself and doesn't want to hurt me. We just talked the other day via text and its appearant he still has feelings for me. I know I very much still do for him. Hes stopping by next week to drop some of my books off and idk its possible in the future us happening again might come up since we both still care for the other. And yea.
If you're going out with your ex you should do it with under your own discretion ( this is something I've said in topics like these ). If you're feeling that you still have feelings for him then by all means do it.
I really do. My feelings for him haven't faded in the slightest. I've tried moving on but I can't shake him from my thoughts. Never felt so compatible with someone before. Heck we even want similar retirements. Like basically the same with minor details that are different. Idk I've never felt so connected with someone before.