The trouble is, your last statement "ladies: give the underdog a chance." I've never heard the reverse-"Guys, give unattractive girls a chance." Though it's good that you're happy with your personal relationship. But the pressure to see past someone's looks, seems to be mostly on women. Which you reflect by directing your comment toward ladies.
I think people enjoy it both ways: Sometimes we enjoy our desire of a person's looks (along with his/her personality). And sometimes, we enjoy seeing past the looks, enjoying other things about a person.
----Some people enjoy the prior, more than the latter (and vice versa). Perhaps many folk want to experience both... and explore/ experiment.
It's unfair to women, to cut off half their experience, and expect them to rarely/never enjoy male beauty (visual)- while men are free to enjoy their sexuality either way.... Even if an agreed-on morale is posed as the reason; that it's honorable to see past a person's looks.
Also, society cultures women to appeal to men, visually. But not vice versa. Most men are not attractive (they cut their hair too short, grow lots of facial hair, etc). So there's an imbalance that forces women to settle for less. (I can rarely find a guy I'm attracted to, no matter how often I search). Whether we're attracted more to personality, looks, or both-- is more about each person exploring what they enjoy. Rather than a set of rules telling us how we're supposed to feel.
For the record, I'm a tactile guy. Attractiveness is secondary. I want a woman with a wonderful sense of touch. This includes kissing. And, I have found that a few of you (<10%) are so good that you light up the night.
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The trouble is, your last statement "ladies: give the underdog a chance." I've never heard the reverse-"Guys, give unattractive girls a chance." Though it's good that you're happy with your personal relationship. But the pressure to see past someone's looks, seems to be mostly on women. Which you reflect by directing your comment toward ladies.
I think people enjoy it both ways: Sometimes we enjoy our desire of a person's looks (along with his/her personality). And sometimes, we enjoy seeing past the looks, enjoying other things about a person.
----Some people enjoy the prior, more than the latter (and vice versa). Perhaps many folk want to experience both... and explore/ experiment.
It's unfair to women, to cut off half their experience, and expect them to rarely/never enjoy male beauty (visual)- while men are free to enjoy their sexuality either way.... Even if an agreed-on morale is posed as the reason; that it's honorable to see past a person's looks.
Also, society cultures women to appeal to men, visually. But not vice versa. Most men are not attractive (they cut their hair too short, grow lots of facial hair, etc). So there's an imbalance that forces women to settle for less. (I can rarely find a guy I'm attracted to, no matter how often I search). Whether we're attracted more to personality, looks, or both-- is more about each person exploring what they enjoy. Rather than a set of rules telling us how we're supposed to feel.
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For the record, I'm a tactile guy. Attractiveness is secondary. I want a woman with a wonderful sense of touch. This includes kissing. And, I have found that a few of you (<10%) are so good that you light up the night.