Confidence doesn't come easily for everyone. When you suffer from social anxiety, developing confidence may be as hard as a dyslexic person studying shakespeare, for example. Or, if you've been rejected a lot, it's hard to feel comfortable reaching out to a girl you don't know real well. And, of course the media doesn't help either. But, thank you for giving an honest and thorough answer. Hopefully, I'm in the minority here.
Try starting brief conversations with girls just for the sake of starting a conversation, passing the time. Like in check out lines or whatever. Forget about trying to get a date or getting laid. If it makes it easier to begin with maybe start talking to girls who aren't beauty queens.
Talk about ANYTHING! (Ok, maybe not sexually graphic stuff, kidnappings, dismemberment, ax murders, etc...)
You'll get to find out just from that if you have any chemistry between you, if anything 'clicks'. Sometimes ordinary girls become more attractive while others seem to become less hot or appealing. If you are compatible on a friendly level then things just naturally flow. Good luck.
PS- If a women just won't talk to you, Fuck it...it's her loss now move on.
But, even with small talk, I still predict that rejection will follow. Now, if it's all in my head, then that's my own problem. But, if she does have the audacity to not only reject me, but judge me harshly, then I hope for karma's sake that she gets hurt by whatever asshole she chooses to associate with instead.
It may help your confidence to improve your appearance in any way you can. Get a haircut, buy a new outfit or pair of shoes, try a good cologne that women like (ask friends if you aren't sure which to pick). Even the smallest change can refresh your outlook and help you radiate the confidence you know is in there! Good luck!
You are right, being confident can be very difficult. I am just saying that it is a valuable trait to have when approaching the opposite gender! I agree with cupcake, you can always improve your looks if you are not satisfied physically.
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Confidence doesn't come easily for everyone. When you suffer from social anxiety, developing confidence may be as hard as a dyslexic person studying shakespeare, for example. Or, if you've been rejected a lot, it's hard to feel comfortable reaching out to a girl you don't know real well. And, of course the media doesn't help either. But, thank you for giving an honest and thorough answer. Hopefully, I'm in the minority here.
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I'm a man with Manly advice...
Try starting brief conversations with girls just for the sake of starting a conversation, passing the time. Like in check out lines or whatever. Forget about trying to get a date or getting laid. If it makes it easier to begin with maybe start talking to girls who aren't beauty queens.
Talk about ANYTHING! (Ok, maybe not sexually graphic stuff, kidnappings, dismemberment, ax murders, etc...)
You'll get to find out just from that if you have any chemistry between you, if anything 'clicks'. Sometimes ordinary girls become more attractive while others seem to become less hot or appealing. If you are compatible on a friendly level then things just naturally flow. Good luck.
PS- If a women just won't talk to you, Fuck it...it's her loss now move on.
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But, even with small talk, I still predict that rejection will follow. Now, if it's all in my head, then that's my own problem. But, if she does have the audacity to not only reject me, but judge me harshly, then I hope for karma's sake that she gets hurt by whatever asshole she chooses to associate with instead.
It may help your confidence to improve your appearance in any way you can. Get a haircut, buy a new outfit or pair of shoes, try a good cologne that women like (ask friends if you aren't sure which to pick). Even the smallest change can refresh your outlook and help you radiate the confidence you know is in there! Good luck!
You are right, being confident can be very difficult. I am just saying that it is a valuable trait to have when approaching the opposite gender! I agree with cupcake, you can always improve your looks if you are not satisfied physically.