Girls are way too hard on themselves today

this year i have learned one new thing about myself. i am way too critical on myself. i feel like a lot of girls are too critical of themselves. we see a lot of instagram models and their hd selfies with their "perfect makeup" and we compare ourselves to them. what if that is their life? all they have and do is their makeup everyday for that one selfie that you began to beat yourself up about? i was this person this year. i do not wear makeup, i do not get my nails done, and my hair is natural so it's poofy with a old fashion crinkle. while i attract a lot of men who tell me how beautiful i am when i go look at my photos i feel like i am too plain. it's like i want to add more, i do not feel like i'm pretty enough or it's just something always wrong. i am so tired of seeing other girls on instagram and wanting to be them. i used to never be this way. i used to take a photo for myself and just upload it. now when i take a photo i will examine it and point out all of it's flaws and then just end up deleting it. this beauty standard of today has really messed up myself image.i view myself as plane jane. i think i look like a penguin when i stand straight forward and my lips look like clown lips because they are too big. i feel like i will never be satisfied with myself. all thinks to the beautiful frauds on instagram posting selfies. instagram is the only social media i have. *sigh* typing about this makes me feel somewhat better that i finally talked about it. i feel like i'm a basic b**ch is what guys call them. i'm basic plane and my hair is not what is usually desired from society. do you think i'm being too hard on myself? or do i need to just shut up and go eat breakfast? this is a everyday problem for me of me being too critical of my looks. i want to know if anyone else feels this way thanks to social media.

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  • exactly looks dont matter.

    they really dont matter. people should go by how someone is morally, not how they look physically.

    looks are artificial.

    n i dont know what a "basic bitch" is and i dont call girls that

    i think calling a girl bitch is mean, rude, and disrespectful

    unless shes being a bitch lol

    yea its bullshit how people think they need looks to be happy. i swear its propaganda from media and a whole bunch of artificial shit from our society messing with peoples brains

    as much as id like to blame bullshit around us, its just a influence, and just because somebody else does something, doesnt mean you have to do the same

    be yourself, if you dont care that much about looks, then good!

    personality and morales are more important. believeeeeee me

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  • You're normal. Almost all women aim to be the most attractive and desired, which is natural, because humans are animals. We compete with each other, in hopes to be the best or at least more beautiful than the girl we're next to, which is a sad fact. So everyday we are consumed with either envy or extreme hubris.

    Basically, rise above your basic instinct to be best female, and just be yourself. Live free. Just maintain your health and keep good hygiene. Decorate your body as you see fit without wondering if people will like it, you got this.

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    • i like that " rise above your basic instinct to be best female and just be yourself." it's hard maintaining your health when you love chinese food.

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  • At least know that you are human. You do sound comfortable in your own skin and you sound confident. You do sound beautiful. Anything else is just nitpicking.
    Enhance your good traits and grow to approve of your self-diagnosed unattractive traits.

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    • i am trying my best. ive been using skin products for years keeping my skin clear. i also try to make sure i don't overeat becauase i have curves but im not yet confortable with having so much junk in the trunk. it's awkward. i focus on my face, arms, and legs to take care of the most. i am beautiful but inhave doubts sometimes when i over analyze. i live in a world where if you do not look like the girl on tv you are considered ugly. i look nothing like the girls on tv.

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  • Being insecure is nothing new for young women. Like it or not, your appearance is tightly tied to your value, and an attractive girl is going to have a much easier life and more opportunities than an ugly one.

    So being hard on your yourself for your appearance isn't dumb. It's your instinct to be as attractive as you can.

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  • The media/instagram/tv/advertising etc. idea of attractive is not actually what real humans find attractive.

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    • that's good to know. i should of realized this. i guess being on social media all day can really change your perception about yourself.

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  • So just get off instagram, maybe then you'll be able to kick this obsession of comparing yourself to others.

    It sounds to me as if you'd rather look what you think is attractive on social media, than be how you really are and seen as attractive in real life. That is not smart.

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    • Im going to support what Ellenna says and elaborate: the most beautiful thing any one can do is be themselves! No lies! Instagram famous" hoties" are so very annoying and not self flattering. Zero makeup, artistic, intelligent, real women are way sexier! But thats jus my opinion!

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      • thank you for the advice. i do not wear makeuo but i wear eyelashes because that's not a drastic enhancement. that's the only make up i would wear is eyelashes and a very soft pink lip gloss that is almost not visible.

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        • I shouldn't have said "zero makeup" should have said, "whatever makes, 'you as a person feel better about yourself'" I'm a guy and i work out and sun for ME. And if that makes me more attractive then more power to me, but i do it for me

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