Hey, baby, I'm thinking of cheating on you, you bore me"
When I say this^, I mean, that's what he's going to hear, no matter how delicately you put it.
And I don't know what you've tried up to now, so ....I'm just saying, look for any and all ways to try to fix this without totally crushing him, or by cheating. Not that it should be all your responsibility....but guys can be clueless.
I mean, how would you feel if he came home and said he's been bored with you and fantasizing about a blonde at work? You'd be crushed, and probably not so willing to work on things with him. Since you haven't ACTUALLY cheated yet, there's no need to tell him that it was ever a thought in your mind, it can do NO good.
Just exhaust all options before leaving or cheating, and before telling him you'd thought about it.
I've been married 8 years and I know my husband has probably thought about another woman here and there, it's just how guys are, but if he came up and told me that I'd rip his balls off and kick him out. It would change how I felt about him and make me very unwilling to try to make him happy. I just don't think you should say anything at this point, just try and work at it for now. See how that goes before doing anything drastic.
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Have you talked to your husband about your frustration? Is he aware you are so frustrated that you are willing to be unfaithful?
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I have to strongly disagree with you on this one.
Hey, baby, I'm thinking of cheating on you, you bore me"
When I say this^, I mean, that's what he's going to hear, no matter how delicately you put it.
And I don't know what you've tried up to now, so ....I'm just saying, look for any and all ways to try to fix this without totally crushing him, or by cheating. Not that it should be all your responsibility....but guys can be clueless.
I mean, how would you feel if he came home and said he's been bored with you and fantasizing about a blonde at work? You'd be crushed, and probably not so willing to work on things with him. Since you haven't ACTUALLY cheated yet, there's no need to tell him that it was ever a thought in your mind, it can do NO good.
Just exhaust all options before leaving or cheating, and before telling him you'd thought about it.
I've been married 8 years and I know my husband has probably thought about another woman here and there, it's just how guys are, but if he came up and told me that I'd rip his balls off and kick him out. It would change how I felt about him and make me very unwilling to try to make him happy. I just don't think you should say anything at this point, just try and work at it for now. See how that goes before doing anything drastic.
You should be a therapist or do a self help column. You always say the right thing thats both reassuring and helpful.