Girls - is it normal to be faithful

Girls only, Please, though men can add comments. I have read surveys that suggest that more than 50% of attached women have been unfaithful at least once. I had a wild sex life before I was married but have been faithful since. I'm now at a cross-roads, and am considering having sex outside marriage, because I am acutely frustrated.

You fantasize about being unfaithful, but you will not carry it out. 25
You have been unfaithful with one man 24
You have never been unfaithful and you never want to. 81
You have had more than five lovers 14
You have been unfaithful with two to five men 22
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  • dappled

    Have you talked to your husband about your frustration? Is he aware you are so frustrated that you are willing to be unfaithful?

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    • wigsplitz

      I have to strongly disagree with you on this one.

      Hey, baby, I'm thinking of cheating on you, you bore me"

      When I say this^, I mean, that's what he's going to hear, no matter how delicately you put it.

      And I don't know what you've tried up to now, so ....I'm just saying, look for any and all ways to try to fix this without totally crushing him, or by cheating. Not that it should be all your responsibility....but guys can be clueless.

      I mean, how would you feel if he came home and said he's been bored with you and fantasizing about a blonde at work? You'd be crushed, and probably not so willing to work on things with him. Since you haven't ACTUALLY cheated yet, there's no need to tell him that it was ever a thought in your mind, it can do NO good.

      Just exhaust all options before leaving or cheating, and before telling him you'd thought about it.

      I've been married 8 years and I know my husband has probably thought about another woman here and there, it's just how guys are, but if he came up and told me that I'd rip his balls off and kick him out. It would change how I felt about him and make me very unwilling to try to make him happy. I just don't think you should say anything at this point, just try and work at it for now. See how that goes before doing anything drastic.

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    • thetimeofyourlife

      You should be a therapist or do a self help column. You always say the right thing thats both reassuring and helpful.

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  • dom180

    Depends what "unfaithful" means. Does it mean a thought? A date? A kiss? Sex, over and over and over? I think different people have different ideas as to where the line is drawn at "unfaithful".

    Dappled is right as ever. Just talk to him about it. I'm sure he'd rather have an awkward conversation with you than have you cheat on him.

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  • brianiron4141

    I am 49 year old guy who enjoys ladies of all ages,
    When I was in my twenties I dated a very hot lady and soon after her roommate to.
    Any night they invited me over Christine or Ruth had a date. (chris was my love).
    I would always be the single ones date.
    Chris was tall blond and thin with small perfect tits.
    Ruth in shape short redhead with very large breasts.
    They taught me how allowing them to satisfy their sexuality ,often in the same room let us all develop.
    Watching your partner sweating and moaning in ecstasy becomes surreal.
    Most men can only come once or twice a day, they hid me in a closet and Ruth had seven men cum inside her and Christine six, all one at a time over seven hours.
    The three of us spent twelve hours in bed and they were delicious.
    Do not deny your desires..as they said every cock feels different and good,
    Every load of cum is different and delicious....try having several men's cum inside you at once and maybe have someone else lick it all out.

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    • In all honesty this sounds wildly disgusting to me. I dont want to be judgemental of insulting in way, shape or form. After all you are consenting adults, pursuit of happiness thing, but really if you didnt make that story up and I dont think you did you should go back and read over it again and really think about what makes you want to watch something like that and then think about these other woman (Ruth and Christine) and how low their own feeling of self worth is to engage in behaviors like that. I would be willing to bet most of the men had no idea what was going during those 7 hours you mention, if they did a good percentage of them would have been pissed as hell I know I would have if I found something like that out.

      Think of it this way, do you have a sister? If you do what would think of her engaging in behavior like this? How about a daughter?

      Would you applaud them "exploring their desires" in this way?

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    • MarieWantsIt

      Now any girl could fantasize about that. I fantasize about walking home with cum trickling down the inside of my thigh from multiple male orgasms, but I couldn't do it. The chances are that one of them would have an STD.

      However, nice thought. It makes me horny, but I couldn't carry it out. If I find a lover, it will be one man and I will have to be sure he is clean.

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  • TheAnomymousQuestioner

    fucking horny slut, thats not fair to do that to your husband. and im not trying to offend but he is probably the one that brings in the income, and while he's at work your fucking thinking of going out and cheating on him :(, filthy fucking whore

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    • derker

      haha You are such a weird guy. I mean even if all of your posts were simply trolling, still weird. Just weird stuff you right. I mean even now you're reading this and don't even care about me talking about what a weird guy you are because it's likely you suffer from some sort of psychosis. So creepy though.

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  • this is really stupid. there's no excuse for being a dumb unfaithful bitch.
    (unless the sex is bad and you don't see it getting any better obviously(or the guy is a complete dick who deserves it) aha

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  • Monster93

    Yeah ima guy and i need to comment on this. But if you are married, of course you NEED to be faithful. Of course its normal because you should be faithful 24/7 to your loved one. And if your considering having sex outside your marriage and basically cheating on your husband then your a bitch and a slut. And im just callin it how i see it cause if my girlfriend or wife told me they wanted to have sex with someone else its a deal breaker because if you truely love someone if dont wanna have sex with anyone else but them. So if you actually wanna do that then you're a whore.

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    • abominus566

      well to say the truth, if you care about someone a lot and the other the same, she most likely will not cheat,
      The only time they cheat is when they are bored with who there with or over tike they don't like the person how they used to, boring sex life. that type of thing all you need is someone who likes you for you and vice versa,you might have some problems not having to do with unfaithfulness but if you are meant to be then you will work around it and be happy again. Thats how it works in my opinion.

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      • Monster93

        Im not thinking straight so im not completely understanding your reply but if you even think about cheating on your Married husband, something isnt right and you dont truely love him. Its wrong and just fucked up

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  • Chillpill

    For me the worst aspect of cheating would be the betrayal of someone's trust. Idk how people deal with the guilt and shame of being deceitful, how they face their significant other after what they've been doing behind their backs. I agree with the other commenters about a lack of communication in your relationship. Talk about it with him, try to re-connect. There are many things that can be done to spice things up.

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    • joybird

      I would imagine that people can only be unfaithful when they don't care that much about their partner any more so I don't think they suffer from guilt or shame. That comes into it more when they get caught!

      I think a female going outside their marriage just for sex - should get paid for it. Go the whole hog and be a prostitute!

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  • backberrypie

    I think it unfortunately is quite normal but does that make it ok? I dont think so after being cheated on by a partner and doing it myself I never want to be in either shoes again, if your unhappy you need to talk honestey is the most important thing if your in a relationship, I hate secretive selfish behaviour and in the end who does it acutally benefit? In the relationship where someone was unfaithful to me it was actually me who had been sexually fustrated for months so when I found out he was the one who had cheated on me it really fucked my head up and Im still struggling to regain my confidence 2 years on maybe if we could have sat down and spoken like adults alot of pain could have been avoided...

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    • abominus566

      i am happy to see that someone has a sense of morals on this poll, i applaude you backberrypie, you will find what you are looking for and it is because of this lesson, All you have to do is to keep pushing on and you will be fine i applaude again you are now wiser.

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  • purpleattitude56

    please don't do anything. if anything, you will feel guiltier and the marriage will definitely be ruined due to mistrust. don't be unfaithful.

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  • Its a sad indictment on society that this question can even create a discussion the way that it has. That being said it is normal to be faithful. Anyone who finds themself not willing to be is not someone who should have committed to a marriage in the first place, plain and simple. It seems more and more society is slowly losing its morals and that the value placed on having high morals is just not important anymore. This doesnt just encompass not cheating on a significant other or spouse but in NOT engaging in a "wild sex life".

    Freedom is a wonderful thing, it can lead to consenting adults enjoying their life to the utmost, but just being able to do something doesnt mean that you SHOULD be doing that same thing. I personally wouldnt want to be involved with anyone that "enjoyed" a wild sex life before meeting me, there isnt anything I could do about it as I didnt know the person, but still no one wants to think of their spouse as having slept with half the town before they came along.

    Try to be faithful as much as possible, if you find that you cant be, divorce is always an option it seems.

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  • Dillanfire

    Sex outside marriage can be healthy if done properly. Condoms, always a must, no emotional attachment and be very discreet.

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  • ColePhelps

    another slut cheating on her husband suprise suprise

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  • iheartbrady

    If you have sex with another dude and your husband finds out he going to shoot that guy and slit your own throat...Im a homosexual

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  • Aleks85

    all you girls are lying sluts.

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  • derker

    what a gay poll, not so much the question, simply the content. Fucking gay. FUCKING GAY! FUCK! FUCK I'M SO FUCKING PISSED NOW I'M GOING TO BURN DOWN A VILLAGE!

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  • MarieWantsIt

    There is something really strange: the comments and the survey show a very different picture. Just less than a third of women in the survey have been unfaithful. A further 8 percent fantasise about it, yet not one woman has added a comment either 'owning up' or saying from experience what it was like.

    My reason for contemplating it is to keep my marriage together, not to break it up. He works away a lot. When hegets back, I'm on heat and he's too tired.

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    • abominus566

      this is no offence to women any where,but i have noticed that as well, if you ask them they will never tell you the whole truth or lie about it or not say anything all together. but really it matters not to me i dont really care for these things, im just an advice giver, a helpful hand if you will.

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  • MarieWantsIt

    I find it interesting that up to now, no woman has added a comment 'in favour' (favor - in US) of my cheating. However, out of 40 women, more than a third have been unfaithful. Ten percent of the whole group have had five or more lovers. Ten percent of the whole group fantasize about being unfaithful. Girls, is there no one who has found infidelity a positive thin? Perhaps not.

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  • Greg1492

    In relation to other similar surveys, all of them show that more women are faithful than men, which means that as it takes two to tango, the women who are unfaithful are unfaithful with more men. Otherwise, the numbers wouldn't add up.

    Back to the point, infidelity is no big deal, so long as: i) you don't catch anything ii) you don't feel guilty iii) you NEVER tell your husband iv) You never get caught. v) you don't fall in love with your lover - that is the biggest danger for women. (I know. I've had lovers who have fallen for me and it's painful.)

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  • SoccerStud88

    nope, you gotta cheat to be normal

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    • abominus566

      not true at all, if you cheat with everyone then you will never find love if you are looking for it. no one will deal with that even if the person cares about you, you will lose every time.

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      • SoccerStud88

        ur so gay

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        • MarieWantsIt

          You know, Soccer Stud, I get the feeling that you are the one genuine guy making comments. I want to know why so many self-righteous people who disapprove are reading sex surveys and comments. D'you know what I think? They are getting vicarious gratification from it. Why else do they keep reading this?

          Again, the survey shows that a third of these guys wives have cheated on them. :-)

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          • abominus566

            genuine you say? far from it,also self righteousness has nothing to do with anything,It's having morals and the ability to not be a deceiver. I ask you how would you feel if someone pretended to care about you but was seeing someone else. If you don't want to be with that person just break up that's all there is to it that avoids so many problems, and by the way this is a relationship topic not a sex one. Cheating is wrong and that's all nothing will ever justify such a cruel action.

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          • derker

            Maybe you're just trying to find anything to justify your own actions

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          • SoccerStud88

            *high five*

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        • abominus566

          no i think you know i am right and you can't stand that fact that someone went against you,tell you one thing good luck finding any type of love you want,because you will never get it or keep it. im not gay i am just wiser than you are, you fool.

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          • SoccerStud88

            ur so fiesty

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