Girlfriend wants an abortion

So my long term girlfriend has two children from a previous relationship and we have one child together. All three kids were born by cesarian. She’s now 40 and I’m 39. She was ill after her last pregnancy and collapsed ended up in hospital with a suspected blood clot on her lung. Now she is pregnant, totally unplanned. We don’t have the space for another child. So, she wants an abortion but I want to keep the child as it’s my last chance to be a dad again and have two kids not just one. Opinions please, thanks

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  • This child could kill your girlfriend and I dont think you want to be a single father. Please care more about your girlfriend living or dying.

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    • Thank you, I know your right and my girlfriend says the same as you it’s just reassuring to hear it from an someone else that’s completely non biased

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  • Would you want the child if it killed your girlfriend in the process?

    That is the question you need to consider - especially based on the previous health issues she had with birth and her age. It is not a trivial possibility. Older woman have a lot of complications that younger woman do not have.

    Do you want to be a daddy without a mommy for any of your kids?

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  • Did the blood clot get removed? Are there any long-term health consequences that would make pregnancy, childbirth or motherhood perilous? Are blood clots likely to recur in the event of pregnancy? Or ever? Is there a way of administering preventative treatment against future blood clots?

    If the answer to these is generally 'no', I really do not think that the child should be killed.

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  • That’s because it’s not yours

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  • Someone help me with this please

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  • Take your one kid and dip.

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  • What does her doctor think?

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    • We haven’t seen a doctor. She’s done several pregnancy tests that all come back positive. We’re getting a call from the abortion clinic in the morning let’s see what they say

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  • Abort.

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  • Personally there’s always room for one more. I call my kids room the barracks Bc it’s bunk beds. Lol. But honestly she has to carry the child with health complications, not you. However, it’s not an “easier” option either.

    Personally, if you’re against it, don’t do it. It could wind up destroying y’all’s relationship if you hold it against her, even if you don’t mean too.

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    • I am against her having an abortion but I understand why she is. You say if I’m against it don’t do it but how? Ultimately it’s her choice. I guess the only thing I can do is try not to hold it against her

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      • It’s a bit different if you both are set in agreement. I must have misread.

        Just remember that through the process, both of you will grieve. And sadly her grievance is more than yours.

        Take care.

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