Girlfriend refuses to have sex and will not explain why...
Would you feel guilty about having sex with someone else if it was just a one time hook-up?
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reminiscent
She doesnt have to explain why to you. If she doesnt want to then she doesn't want to... try not to pressure her.
she might be embarrased to tell you the reason...maybe she feels she isnt ready...maybe she is insecure about something to do with her body.Dont be an asshole and cheat because your girlfriend wont have sex with you. Thats just low
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Sabre
She has an obligation as his girlfriend to satiate his sexual drive, if not, she no place in the dating world. She needs to find the LGBTQA community and find a guy who isn't interested in a sexual relationship but still wants to date.
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reminiscent
Oh im sorry I didnt know it was every womans responsibility to take care of the male populations sexual drive or there would be no dating. Might as well sleep with the guy right away ...he might leave you and you will be worthless as a female partner!
Man I should have given it up the first chance I had to the first bf I had... I had no idea it was my sole responsibility to take care of all his sexual needs! I must be a horrible person.
Oh and if is her obligation does she even have a right to say no?...at this point couldn't he just take what he wants...after all its her obligation!
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jojo338955701
I certainly don't think that a woman is obligated to have sex with her boyfriend but sex is a very normal, natural and healthy thing for a couple to do. And it's completely reasonable for a man (or a woman) to be unhappy in a relationship that doesn't involve sex.
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Cuntsiclestick
Yes, it's still cheating OP.
One of the things I never really understood is why people would rather cheat than break up with the person they're having problems with.
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reminiscent
Yeah its cheating ...you have a girlfriend therefore any sexual act or intimacy you have with another girl is cheating.
do you think she would like you sleeping with another girl?
If you cant wait for her then your not really worth it...and your not the guy for her.
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Lynxikat
Uh... yeah. Duh. If you are in a committed relationship with someone and you are having sex with someone else without their knowledge and/or without okay that you can sleep with other people, then YES it is cheating. Whatever her reasons, it doesn't matter.
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thegypsysailor
Why even stay with your "gf" if you aren't getting what you want from the relationship? NOTHING gives you an excuse to cheat, NOTHING.
Be an adult and walk out, but don't act like a petulant child and cat around, blaming your "gf" for your infidelity.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
Parky_Parker
Why don't you BOTH act like adults? Have a mature conversation. If she doesn't want to have sex for whatever reason, that's okay. And if you feel as though you can't live without it, you should part ways with her like a grown up. Why do you feel the need to go behind her back and cheat? Save yourselves the hassle.
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Anonymous Post Author
She has a lot of other things to offer in a relationship that some bimbo for a one-time-lay couldn't.
We've tried talking about it and she said that she wants to have sex in general but whenever the moment comes up she doesn't feel like it and doesn't know why she feels that way. That's as far as I can get by prying into her, and it took a lot of effort to even get her to say that.
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Ellenna
Maybe it's time for a gentle ultimatum: if she genuinely doesn't know why she doesn't want sex (any more or has she ever??) she needs to get herself some therapy and maybe if you tell her you're considering getting sex elsewhere this might give her a bit of a nudge?
You know her and IIN people don't: if she's very sensitive emotionally then I wouldn't be telling her that, just gently encourage her to get some help outside the relationship because it's important to you.
It's normal for you to want to get sex elsewhere but not a good idea if you value the relationship. She certainly won't feel like having sex with you if she finds out you've been cheating.
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Parky_Parker
If you can't be honest in a relationship, it usually goes to hell. You seem like you care about her good qualities, but you wanna cheat on her. Maybe she wants good "qualities" in a guy too.
Accept her and be patient, OR be single and sleep around as much as you need to. Nobody deserves to be cheated on.
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I've heard of many cases where a lesbian wants a family, so she marries a guy to get it. The guy is loving, a good father, and makes a good income. She stays with him because it's convenient, but never admits she doesn't like sex with men. She locks herself in the closet so to speak. Maybe once every three months she has sex to string the guy along.
Don't know about your case, but it's a possibility to consider.
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Ellenna
I don't know what circles you move in, but I lived as a Lesbian for more than 20 years and I NEVER came across a Lesbian like these ones you've "heard of" - you're living in the past, Lesbians can get pregnant without needing to be in a relationship with a man to do so, plenty have and will continue to do so.
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wistfulmaiden
There is too much youre not saying here, did she used to have sex with you then stop, or have you never had sex yet?
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Lariii
I'd say that maybe your gf is feeling pressured into having sex with you, and for lots of girls that would certainly be a turn off and make her less likely to have sex.
I'd probably set her down and have a really open conversation, where you gently ask her questions and say that you understand if she's not wanting sex, but you'd like to know the reason.
It could be that she's just not in the right mood for sex, maybe she wants lots of romance to lead up for sex, or maybe she's just too nervous to actually do it.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
slings_and_arrows
What good is one time hook up? So you have sex once..and then what? Obviously you are planning an on-going hook up or different hook ups. This is a bad idea. Seek counselling etc. dont do this behind her back. Some couples come to an agreement about these things you know...open relationship kind of thing.
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TheChakraMantra
First of all, a woman isn't obligated to have sex with you just because you're dating. No one is. Secondly, always keep in mind the possibility of past sexual abuse, therefore feelings of shame. Or maybe she just doesn't want to give herself to a cheating dirtbag. She can probably already sense that you're so pathetic against your hormones that you can't even talk to her about it like an adult, therefore realizes she's too good for you.
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We've been together for almost six months now and I've brought this up with her a lot times. At least five times that I can remember.
Also I haven't cheated at all and nothing is really planned. This is just my mind wandering because I'm starting to get frustrated.
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[Old Memory]
I wouldnt be with someone who expects me to guess things. If somebody cant explain why regarding anything I simply will not deal with them.
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bazzini
In the end you have to pick your poison. If you want to be with her and she fulfills some other need of yours (nonsexual) then you need to respect it and leave the issue alone. Coming from a guy in a similar situation you have to learn that it's her body and if she doesn't want you all up in her business (figuratively) then just drop the topic. If this is too big of an issue to get over then you need to just get out of the relationship. The key here is you need to figure out what the relationship gives you and doesn't and if the "doesn't" column has key essentials to keep you happy then you need to leave.
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Nokiot9
It's cheating if u lie about it. U need to ask her for an open physical relationship. Otherwise u are deceiving her and it's very very wrong. Tell her you are a man in ur sexual prime and need certain needs fulfilled. Tell her how beautiful she is and how much you love and covet her. Let her know that she Is the person that you want. And make sure u stress that u can't be in a sexless relationship. Then she'll most likely say the whole "is Sex ALL you care about? Ur gonna leave me if I don't fuck you!?" To which u reply, If all I care about is sex, we wouldn't even be having this conversation right now because I'd have left a LONG time ago.
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Dude why can't you find out why she refuse to have sex with you and sort your problem if possible..
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