Girl i know online

Her personality is so utterly beautiful to me that I think its possible I might be in love with her I don't know if its possible because we've never met in real life but I know it's unrequited but I cannot believe how much I like her and I don't know how to process it.. god its insane but I feel so enamored by how she thinks that it hurts it literally hurts when I think of the fact I will never get to hold her. We're friends and I know she thinks highly of me but shes made it clear that she doesnt want to give me the wrong idea but my god shes so utterly wonderful it makes me sick I just want to be with her that's literally all I want and I've never even looked in her eyes.. is it possible to fall in love through just talking online I've heard her voice many times and seen her face and shes insanely attractive too I just can't believe how much I like her mind..

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  • RoseIsabella

    What you're describing isn't love, it's infatuation. You have a crush on this person, but it doesn't sound like love. Love is more than just a feeling, love is also an action, and I'm not talking about sex.

    I'm not trying to give you a hard time, but you don't know this person well enough, and you're not dating her so how can you be in love with her? It's just a crush, and hopefully you will get over it sooner that later.

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  • Boojum

    Rose is right: you're deeply infatuated. Most people experience that state of mind a few times, so it's perfectly normal.

    What you're actually in love with is an idealised image of the woman that you've created in your head. It's possible that you might have spent enough time talking to her that your image isn't all that far from reality, but some people are very good at playing roles and convincing others that they are completely different people to who they truly are.

    Psychopaths and others who get their kicks out of manipulating people love social media because it allows them to control the image they present. I'm not saying that's what she is, but it's always a possibility.

    The fact that she's said that she wants to keep your relationship strictly online might also be a factor in how you're feeling. For some people, the unobtainable ideal is always far more alluring than anything they could easily have. But this is a form of self-sabotage: if you're not willing to settle for anything less than total perfection, you're never going to be happy, because you'll never find the perfect anything.

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  • Gameofthrones288

    I think you need to meet someone or at least talk to them via video at least a dozen or more times to know if you actually love them otherwise you might just love the idea of who you think they are

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  • CelticDarkMoon

    You need to get a life , she’s clearly not interested in you in any way , and she’s just being totally polite to you and trying not to hurt your feeling , when in fact she means “
    No way in hell would she be interested in you “

    Sorry but the truth hurts , get over it

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  • You shouldn't be too invested in a purely online relationship; like others said, if you haven't even spent a day together then you haven't really seen her, her personas, her ego and id, you just see a fragment of the whole

    What you could do instead is just learn how to talk to someone you're interested in, you know like figure out how to make her laugh, how to make her feel good about herself, how to be her friend or however else you view an ideal relationship and you can use those experiences when you meet someone in real life you really wanna try your best to impress

    I feel like I could drone on and on about the psychological implications of tantalizing yourself (extra credit if you read about the etymology of tantalize)

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  • Somenormie

    Not if you met her in person.

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