Getting dinner w/ a girl when u have a gf?

my bf mentioned saying hi to a girl he used to hangout with and hookup with, 3 years ago whom he met on tinder, when she comes to CA. apparently she messaged him a month ago when she visited gf and idk maybe wanted to say hi? my bf didn’t because he was withdrawling and not feeling good. but like.. this chick is married? and they’re not even friends. they don’t talk. haha like ever. so what would be the point of that? anyway, if she comes back and messages him again, would it be fucked up if he went to get lunch and see her? need advice with this

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  • Are you the same one who keeps posting about deleting your BF's Snapchat, and him leaving you, etc?

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  • Yep he wants her pussy. Seems obvious to me. I'd confront him about it.

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  • Where in CA

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    • Huntington beach

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  • She seemed to be some friends with benefits type thing or just an occasional pussy. Then she pops up after years wanting to see him idk seems kinda weird to me. I personally wouldn’t wanna see someone I used to hook up with in the past unless it was for more dick. Why else? Isn’t that all she was. Ain’t no catching up that’s just catching in.

    Also don’t matter she’s married I’ve had married dudes hit on me. Pisses me off how shitty they are but some fucking people cannot be trusted. Of course it’s up to you and everything but I can’t help but see this as a potential red flag.

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    • it’s not forsure and i don’t even know what the convo was. my bf said he would wanna say hi because i guess it’s someone he used to like? they did more than hookup. but if this happens in the future should i tell him i don’t approve?

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      • It’s totally up to you. Idk how I’d personally feel if my boyfriend wanted to see someone who used to be a thing. I honestly don’t really care much what my boyfriend does cause I trust him but if it came to seeing someone he used to like and fuck and have that attraction for I’d definitely be iffy. Again I trust him but It just seems weird, ik he never would cause he thinks it’s weird too but like why would you, ya know. I avoid all my past people I’ve liked, they are a past for a reason I want nothing to do with them. But you know your relationship better than me. Just in general it seems weird to me but that’s just my take. If you don’t feel comfortable about it then tell him.

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        • if it happens and i get upset over it or tell him i’m uncomfortable he would get upset..

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          • A guy who doesn’t know how to respect boundaries. If he gets mad you feel uncomfortable with him going to see someone he’d hook up with, seems like he’s just going to do whatever he wants. If he can’t respect you don’t want him to, makes it seem he’s not going to see her the right reasons. You sure you want a guy who’s going to be that type of controlling and not give you a voice? Do whatever he wants? I dealt with that with my last ex and it left me super unhappy. Now if I tell my current boyfriend no on something he listens and vice versa. He’s respectful and understanding and I’m glad I found someone I can be happy with. I hated being with someone who never let me voice my worries. It left me feeling like I can’t trust him. I like talking out my problems with someone rather than having no voice. You need trust in a relationship. When someones like that it sounds childish. Can you be happy with someone not caring what you feel? You’d be better off finding someone who’s going to care.

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