Gay straight or bi

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So Ive always been very observant of both sexes. I am a freshman in college and in a sorority. Just last night I was high, and lying in bed i began to wonder why i couldn't seem to find a guy. I was great friends with almost an entire frat house, and even had a few guys interested me. I was also really interested in one of the guys as well. But thing with me that has always stopped from commititng to a relationship is the fact that my best friends dad molested me when i was around 8 years old.
Part of me believes that that is the reason i dont trust a lot of men, even though i seem to gravitate towards them. but then part of me wonders if i even want to. I feel all the time im gonna be a bad mom bc im not ga ga over babies and all that stuff. I really would like to be certain im straight, i guess its true that you wonder. I mean if uve never been gay before its not like you know what it feels like. I am defiently sexually attracted to men, but sometime i fantasize about women too. I think I am straight and hoping that this is just a phase. until then if you in my same boat i pray you can get through this confusing time. cross your fingers for me too.

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  • buriedalive
    15 years ago

    From what I've read of your story, I don't think you're a lesbian, or even necessarily bisexual. Plenty of straight people have fantasies about the same sex, but have no desire to follow through on them. If there's a specific girl that you're fantasising about, and you think that you'd be happy to actually be with her, then maybe start questioning your sexuality.
    I'm sorry about what happened with your friends dad, I can't imagine how hard that would be to deal with, but the only way to start getting over it imo is to get in there and prove to yourself that not all men are like that. If you think you need help getting over how you feel, talk to a therpist, it really helps a lot of people.
    Also, don't worry about not being big into babies, plenty of people who weren't that entuasiastic about it in their youth make wonderful mums :)

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    You could take it up the ass doggy style while eating out your girlfriend. Perfect for everyone involved don't you think?

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  • ucipher8
    11 years ago

    Definitely not in your boat as a male. But for example, pornography. I can't be turned on unless i see a man and a woman. Most guys tend to say lesbian women are hot, it just doesn't help me to see to women getting it on, lol... Sometimes, it could but tits usually still photographs.

    I won't speak for bi sexualism because i am certain of my "mono-sexuality". But i think Men who love each other, isn;t just natural but nearly pre determined. Women who love each other however, I've always been weird about, so attribute abuse and distrust leading to that Life decision of being with women only.

    Im not trying to put lesbians down, I'm just saying that yes, abuse and trust is a huge factor. Abuse in life; in general. If i would suggest anything, just follow what your heart says and stop putting a label on whether you are gay straight and or bi.

    If your local government won't hear you, who needs a piece of paper anyway? Legitimate marriages end in divorce, and only make the pockets of lawyers fatter. Otherwise, you make your own decisions no matter what gender you are.

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  • floodimoo123
    11 years ago

    Just go for whatever makes you happy. Also, just because you're not obsessed with babies doesn't make you a bad mom. Loving your baby and taking care of it is what makes you a good mom. Not baby obsession. And I'm sorry about your childhood, dear. Just take it day by day. You will find your mind at peace soon. I promise you (:

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