That sounds to me like molestation, or date rape. Someone who is under the influence of alcohol or another substance doesn't always know what they're doing, and you were also vulnerable because of your age, which your 35 yr old friend knew.
Read here about date rape: http://teenadvice.about.com/od/daterape/a/daterapeguysfyi.htm (the 2nd page of that article addresses date rape when one or more of the people involved is under the influence)
Also keep in mind that the article can apply to men being the victim as well as women, and that you don't have to say "no" for it to be rape if you were intoxicated.
It sounds to me like the "stress" you've been experiencing is part of the trauma that comes with being sexually assaulted. Even if it was just touching or something, that can still mess with your mind a lot because it's not something you would normally have asked for.
Trust me when I say it's better to not deny that this could at least be a possibility. You need to talk to a counselor and work through this issue or it will build up and explode when you least expect it. I know from personal experience how detrimental something like this can be to your health. You need to get help for it before the stress becomes much, much worse.
Also, are you still in contact with the guy that did this to you? That could be aggravating to the healing process. You might want to consider staying away from him, confronting him... whatever you think will give you peace. But don't just stay around him acting like it's okay. As long as you live with fear or shame because of what happened, you are giving him power over you.
Gay experiences causing extreme stress Normal?
← View full post
That sounds to me like molestation, or date rape. Someone who is under the influence of alcohol or another substance doesn't always know what they're doing, and you were also vulnerable because of your age, which your 35 yr old friend knew.
Read here about date rape: http://teenadvice.about.com/od/daterape/a/daterapeguysfyi.htm (the 2nd page of that article addresses date rape when one or more of the people involved is under the influence)
Also keep in mind that the article can apply to men being the victim as well as women, and that you don't have to say "no" for it to be rape if you were intoxicated.
It sounds to me like the "stress" you've been experiencing is part of the trauma that comes with being sexually assaulted. Even if it was just touching or something, that can still mess with your mind a lot because it's not something you would normally have asked for.
Trust me when I say it's better to not deny that this could at least be a possibility. You need to talk to a counselor and work through this issue or it will build up and explode when you least expect it. I know from personal experience how detrimental something like this can be to your health. You need to get help for it before the stress becomes much, much worse.
Also, are you still in contact with the guy that did this to you? That could be aggravating to the healing process. You might want to consider staying away from him, confronting him... whatever you think will give you peace. But don't just stay around him acting like it's okay. As long as you live with fear or shame because of what happened, you are giving him power over you.