I go to barnes and nobles/coffeeshop or the library if I need to study sometimes. Sometimes, I hang out by the dining hall or sometimes I might go to an event by an organization on campus.
I somehow feel like the rejection is real, especially with men around my age range. And I do not think I am intimidating in anyway. Or maybe sometimes I feel like the men don't like my personality or it is a possibility that just might not be attracted to me. I heard that attraction can also be about luck-finding the right guy that is into the way you look. And maybe I am just unlucky most of the time.
To be honest, In really don't know what I need to fix. One time my taxi driver asked if I stayed in with my bf all the time and I said I don't have a bf and then he said I am very beautiful and that I would find someone because he sees ugly women with bfs. Lol he kept complimenting me until I got to my destination. He even asked if he wanted to set me up with someone lol. But I don't know if he is the type guy to hit on many women or if its just the case the beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Sometimes my friends say you look good or like my aunt asked who am I dating and she said now that my skin is clear men should be approaching me but I told her that men don't approach me and she was like wow and also my family friend would ask me if I have gotten a bf yet and she assumed that it was because I was focusing on my studies but really thats not the reason. But really I don't think I am doing something wrong (unless you count being shy and dressing modestly as culprits). But I am the type of girl who doesn't start a conversation with people around me. But once a conversation is started with me, I think that is when my personality really shines through.
there are many men who love girls who dress very modestly and dressing modestly in general is considered a good thing. But maybe you should dress a little less modestly and have a little bit of a fashion sense and some lipstick on. Play with your looks a little bit. I think I know where the problem is, you are not 100% socially adapted. You should go out more in places that people your age go, like a bar and meet people. Where do you want men to approach you at a coffee shop? :p That is very rare. You sound like you are extremely in your own shell.
You nee to change your social life a little bit. What are you going to do when you find a boyfriend? Go to coffee shops and study? Go to more places, off course only places that you love.Don't you have more places that you like to go?
I know many girls who look extremely modest and had many boyfriends. It is all have to do with how you feel about yourself and your life. But it is not only that your biggest issue is that you are very innocent and closed off in your shell. You need to adjust yourself to the rest of the world and be one with the rest of your age group more. That is your problem. The way you talk you sound like someone way younger than you are.
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I go to barnes and nobles/coffeeshop or the library if I need to study sometimes. Sometimes, I hang out by the dining hall or sometimes I might go to an event by an organization on campus.
I somehow feel like the rejection is real, especially with men around my age range. And I do not think I am intimidating in anyway. Or maybe sometimes I feel like the men don't like my personality or it is a possibility that just might not be attracted to me. I heard that attraction can also be about luck-finding the right guy that is into the way you look. And maybe I am just unlucky most of the time.
To be honest, In really don't know what I need to fix. One time my taxi driver asked if I stayed in with my bf all the time and I said I don't have a bf and then he said I am very beautiful and that I would find someone because he sees ugly women with bfs. Lol he kept complimenting me until I got to my destination. He even asked if he wanted to set me up with someone lol. But I don't know if he is the type guy to hit on many women or if its just the case the beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Sometimes my friends say you look good or like my aunt asked who am I dating and she said now that my skin is clear men should be approaching me but I told her that men don't approach me and she was like wow and also my family friend would ask me if I have gotten a bf yet and she assumed that it was because I was focusing on my studies but really thats not the reason. But really I don't think I am doing something wrong (unless you count being shy and dressing modestly as culprits). But I am the type of girl who doesn't start a conversation with people around me. But once a conversation is started with me, I think that is when my personality really shines through.
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there are many men who love girls who dress very modestly and dressing modestly in general is considered a good thing. But maybe you should dress a little less modestly and have a little bit of a fashion sense and some lipstick on. Play with your looks a little bit. I think I know where the problem is, you are not 100% socially adapted. You should go out more in places that people your age go, like a bar and meet people. Where do you want men to approach you at a coffee shop? :p That is very rare. You sound like you are extremely in your own shell.
You nee to change your social life a little bit. What are you going to do when you find a boyfriend? Go to coffee shops and study? Go to more places, off course only places that you love.Don't you have more places that you like to go?
I know many girls who look extremely modest and had many boyfriends. It is all have to do with how you feel about yourself and your life. But it is not only that your biggest issue is that you are very innocent and closed off in your shell. You need to adjust yourself to the rest of the world and be one with the rest of your age group more. That is your problem. The way you talk you sound like someone way younger than you are.