Some girls who flirt do this because they are insecure, and others have issues with their dad (i.e. daddy left when i was little, etc.)
You should make sure that you feel good about yourself and that you do not subconsciously seek approval from ALL men.
If you feel like this describes you, consider sharing these childhood feelings with your friends (and make sure to make it into a REALLY big deal so u get lots of sympathy.) If they are true friends, they will at least try to understand. You can also explain that the world feels different to you because of who you are and how this feels, but that you will try harder to be more "aloof" when saying "hello" to their boyfriends.
I know of one sure cure for this. What you do is that you flirt with a dangerous guy but MAKE SURE that you friends know that they are supposed to talk you out of it. You should also have a boring, "nice guy" friend who secretly loves you and who you can manipulate to "come rescue you."
This helps to create a safe space for you to explore your daddy issues without risking casual sex with your friends' bf's. But therapy and religion are far safer still, because unfortunely, girls with daddy issues lack the Amazonian-power to tame wild boyfriends. However, this can be learned, I am told. If you choose religion, know that (Jesus called God "abba" which means, "daddy.") It is a good idea to cycle between both extremes; this make you more interesting to guys. I am a guy. =)
Flirting without realizing
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Some girls who flirt do this because they are insecure, and others have issues with their dad (i.e. daddy left when i was little, etc.)
You should make sure that you feel good about yourself and that you do not subconsciously seek approval from ALL men.
If you feel like this describes you, consider sharing these childhood feelings with your friends (and make sure to make it into a REALLY big deal so u get lots of sympathy.) If they are true friends, they will at least try to understand. You can also explain that the world feels different to you because of who you are and how this feels, but that you will try harder to be more "aloof" when saying "hello" to their boyfriends.
I know of one sure cure for this. What you do is that you flirt with a dangerous guy but MAKE SURE that you friends know that they are supposed to talk you out of it. You should also have a boring, "nice guy" friend who secretly loves you and who you can manipulate to "come rescue you."
This helps to create a safe space for you to explore your daddy issues without risking casual sex with your friends' bf's. But therapy and religion are far safer still, because unfortunely, girls with daddy issues lack the Amazonian-power to tame wild boyfriends. However, this can be learned, I am told. If you choose religion, know that (Jesus called God "abba" which means, "daddy.") It is a good idea to cycle between both extremes; this make you more interesting to guys. I am a guy. =)