Finding your boyfriends bumble page

if you found out your boyfriend had a bumble page while dating you and texted other girls wanting to meet up, would that be grounds for breaking up?

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Based on 11 votes (8 yes)
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  • SkullsNRoses

    You have evidence that he’s texting other girls? Dump him. Seriously.

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  • bbrown95

    Of course. That is cheating. Personally, I would absolutely break up with this person and there would be no second chances.

    I assume this is the same guy who is blaming his cheating on depression, and trying to turn the situation around to guilt you for being upset about the cheating?

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    • yeah. every time i bring it up he turns it around and gets annoyed with me

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      • RoseIsabella

        You need to get as far away as you can from this guy, because he's trying to mess with your head. I'm not saying it's okay for you to continuously snoop through his things, but if he has an account on a dating site while he's with you it's not a good thing. When someone who's married, or in a relationship has an account on a dating website/app it says that the person is either already cheating, or looking to cheat.

        I myself have lived with depression, and anxiety throughout my life, but I believe that one's mental illness doesn't make it okay to act in a hurtful way towards others. I've even gone through periods of being genuinely suicidal, but I do not believe that it gives me the right to act in an immoral, and hurtful way.

        Fuck his depression, fuck his anxiety, and fuck his so called suicidal thoughts, because none of it makes it okay for him to cheat, and try to control you. Dump him, and whenever he threatens to kill himself just say, "okay", and then call 911 on his crazy ass. If he's just trying to manipulate you he will learn a powerful lesson, after a few days in a psychiatric ward. If he is genuinely suicidal he will get the mental health assistance, for which he is so desperately in need.

        You are not responsible for this awful person. Even if he decided to start self harming, or actually made a suicide attempt you are NOT responsible for any of it. Obviously, I think you should dump him, but if you don't think you can dump him right now just tell him you need some space. Tell him you need somewhere between three days to a week of peace, and quiet to yourself. As soon as he starts trying to bust down the boundaries you've set, and he probably will, just tell him it's over, because he's failing to respect your boundaries, and then block him on your phone, and all media. You can also just ghost him. This guy is garbage, and he doesn't deserve, explanations from you, or anyone, because he is not a good person!

        If you dump this jerk, your life will improve, believe me!

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        • thank you. that helped

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          • RoseIsabella

            You're very welcome.

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      • bbrown95

        To me, that seems like he's trying to evade responsibility for his own actions and hoping to "sweep it under the rug", so to speak, which isn't fair to you at all. It's also extremely manipulative.

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        • yeah it is. i don’t really know how to handle it when he acts like this because he just makes me feel like i’m being annoying or that i’m adding to his depression. he keeps saying he’s going insane whenever i bring it up and gets frustrated and hits his head

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          • bbrown95

            I think the best you can do is suggest he seek professional help. As for the relationship, it is ultimately your decision, but it seems pretty unhealthy and toxic to me. The fact that he is trying to turn the tables on you to make himself the victim and guilt you is appalling and unacceptable, and likely how he will handle any similar matters in the future in which the responsibility lies on him.

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            • RoseIsabella

              That guy is a selfish, dishonest piece of shit who is manipulative as Hell. He's the type of person who wants have his cake, and eat it too.

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  • SwickDinging

    Yes, it would.

    Although it's worth checking in case it's an old account that he hasn't been on since you got together

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  • Imafriendyrock

    Yes it would be grounds. If the messages are new of course. If its just an old page he had before you and the messages are old no.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Honey, I don't even know. I ain't never heard of any Bumble except bumblebees, and I really do love those little critters.

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    • Somenormie

      What OP is referring to is a dating app named Bumble.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Thanks. 🙂

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  • GaelicPotato

    Maybe it's old?

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    • nope because how i found out was a girl messaged me saying they met on bumble a month ago

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      • GaelicPotato

        U 2 committed?

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        • yeah for 8 months

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          • GaelicPotato

            Yeah he's cheating.

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  • jethro

    What's a bumble page?

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    • a dating app

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  • olderdude-xx

    Most people do in fact try or use many different sites to meet people. So, its quite common to find that someone has multiple pages on multiple sites.

    The real question is where are you at in the relationship. If you are at the initial meet - and the 1st few dates to get to know each other.... Then it would likely be normal for many people to be active on more than one site.

    If you are seriously into a committed relationship - and they have not told you about the other sites, and are still actively looking... That's an issue.

    In my case once past the initial meeting stage I told anyone I was continuing with what sites I had recently been active on (and that there were a bunch from long ago). I may still have maintained some minor level of activity - but, I could show my GF that my responses were on the the line of " I believe I have found someone and am actively dating her; Thus, not actively looking (unless there was other reasons to respond differently - such as the time an old High School classmate messaged me - and then we talked about what's happened since then and even casually met a few times just as platonic friends: My GF at the time knew about that conversation and those meetings).

    Actually in my case it was often a bit more complicated as I have been poly almost all my adult life - and have let potential GF's know that up front so they could decide if that was acceptable to them before getting involved with me (usually 2 active GF's, and have only once looked for a 3rd, when I knew one of them was moving on due to a future positive life change for her) - and I never hid it and my GF's usually met each other at least once (honesty works well - I'm baffled by all the ones who figure they have to lie).

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