Sorry about the lack of replies with substance -- the longer stories tend to wear people out around here. I did read your story when it was first posted a couple of weeks ago, but I had a difficult time really focusing on what would be a good solution for you.
Frankly, this does not look like a promising start to me. Your relationship is long distance -- VERY long distance at that. Both of you have major trust issues, you have difficulties communicating when you DO talk, and both of you seem to doubt your commitment to one another. Also, you state that she refuses to talk about your issues and has asked for you to "give her time", presumably to think things over. In my experience, this is almost always the polite way of putting a relationship on hold until the other party works up the nerve to break off the relationship entirely.
You don't list your ages here, but I'm assuming you are both young, perhaps in your late teens or early 20s. I'd suggest that you let this relationship simmer in the background while you pursue other interests at this time. This doesn't have to mean other women, but if you are unable to agree on even the most fundamental elements of this relationship and you have no way of deepening the bond with some kind of physical contact, you probably have no choice at this point but to move on. You can still stay in touch and hope that things may change for the two of you in the future but for now, there clearly is no future.
Fiancee Avoiding Talking About Our Issues
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Sorry about the lack of replies with substance -- the longer stories tend to wear people out around here. I did read your story when it was first posted a couple of weeks ago, but I had a difficult time really focusing on what would be a good solution for you.
Frankly, this does not look like a promising start to me. Your relationship is long distance -- VERY long distance at that. Both of you have major trust issues, you have difficulties communicating when you DO talk, and both of you seem to doubt your commitment to one another. Also, you state that she refuses to talk about your issues and has asked for you to "give her time", presumably to think things over. In my experience, this is almost always the polite way of putting a relationship on hold until the other party works up the nerve to break off the relationship entirely.
You don't list your ages here, but I'm assuming you are both young, perhaps in your late teens or early 20s. I'd suggest that you let this relationship simmer in the background while you pursue other interests at this time. This doesn't have to mean other women, but if you are unable to agree on even the most fundamental elements of this relationship and you have no way of deepening the bond with some kind of physical contact, you probably have no choice at this point but to move on. You can still stay in touch and hope that things may change for the two of you in the future but for now, there clearly is no future.