Fiance won't tell family/friends about our wedding!

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My fiance and I are going to married in 7 days.
He has yet to tell his family and friends that we are about to elope.

-The ceremony is private (at my fiance's request) so it's just going to be him and me.

-I know he's not ashamed of me or embarrassed. I've met all of his family/friends and we get along fine.

-I ask him why he's keeping it secret from his nearest and dearest and he can't give me a straight answer.

He tells me and acts like he's committed to getting married and has shown that he is EXCEPT for telling his family and friends.

Why the secrecy?
IS THIS NORMAL?

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Based on 69 votes (12 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    If you're eloping isn't the point not to tell anyone?

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    • jucedaguy
      11 years ago

      That is what it is all about.

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  • JavaJones
    14 years ago

    Isn't the whole point of eloping that you get to avoid the mess and interference that family sometimes can bring. Maybe he just wants to wait til after you elope to tell his family, so that there is absolutely no chance of him being talked out of eloping and into a big wedding.
    Who asked who here...did he ask you...?

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  • sandmansgirl
    14 years ago

    No, this is NOT normal. If I were you, I'd hold off on that wedding until you find out what the problem is. You might just be in for the surprise of your life. Had he been married before and maybe the divorce is not final? Perhaps he has a gay lover that only his family knows about and you don't? Perhaps he's got a shady past that you are unaware of? Please pulls the reins to a halt before it's too late....you need to know what's up. A marriage built on this type of foundation will surely crumble!

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    • Audacia
      14 years ago

      Sounds about right....

      It's not normal

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  • pambambam
    11 years ago

    he's not as in love as you think he is

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    Not normal.

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  • highfallen
    13 years ago

    You should stand up to him. Call off the eloping and say your not marrying him until he tells you what's going on. It's definitely not normal at all.

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  • alone4679
    14 years ago

    could be leadind a secret life and all ready be married

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  • nothing2
    14 years ago

    they might be real weird or embarassing. or you know. maybe he's not serious.

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  • spajerr
    14 years ago

    maybe his family acts like they like you but they really dont

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    OK - you know he is not ashamed or embarrassed.

    Insist then that he TELL his family etc. as a declaration of his love to you. Speak up for yourself here - you don't need a formal family ceremony - but you also don't want eloping to be secretive. Let him know that this is your position, period.

    My bet is that he is not telling because he will be pressured and would have to stand up for himself.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Im not going to inform my family about any wedding plans (if i decide to get married).

    I dont like alot of the people in my family, and they do not like me.

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  • jucedaguy
    11 years ago

    How did this get posted?.....
    Do yo have a computer at your sink or stove?

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