Major turn-on for me. Actually...almost a requirement. My "Max" number of guys a girl has been with before me is 2. Anything more than that and I wouldn't be interested.
Err... why? What is so different about a women after she has had sex? Or a man for that matter? I could understand the novelty of being the first person somebody has has with, that is very hot. But to genuinely lose interest in a person because they have had sex with multiple people before... that is odd to me. Care to enlighten me?
It is an experience issue for me. I'm not very experienced, and I expect the person I'm with to want to be curious about things sexually. Partly because it would allow me to explore them, and allow them to explore me so we both learn what feels good and doesn't together. Not someone who already knows what they like. It also has something to do with expectations. That one person that rocked their world...I wouldn't even remotely be capable of measuring up to that. And then it comes down to size. If they've been with a vast number of people, they'll have a specific size in mind they want. Again, I know I don't add up in that department.
Wow, that's actually very insightful. I'd say I agree with you that discovering your partner as they discover you sounds amazing.
But as for size, it really isn't a big deal. Sure, the minority of members that happen to be large may physically be a bit more satisfying to some women (up to a certain point that varies woman to woman). But great sex is not all about physical pleasure. Society has made the idea of having a large member FAR overrated. I recommend this article:
Is it going to be the same when you have had more experience?
You can't really be picky though. I got a friend, Mollie. And on one of her articles I read that you were surprised, like it doesn't happen often that a girl talks to you.
My point is, you don't have alot of female contact. Can you really be this picky?
Well it also depends on some other factors. If the above mentioned things weren't a concern to her, our personalities were compatible, and we've known each other for a long time (over 7 months as an example) the chances she would let me explore her are increased/ I would be willing to be with her.
I have a few good female friends. One has lesser experience and cares more about the emotions she experiences with people. Another has 40+ guys experience, and is looking for a specific size, stamina, and even body shape. So I've seen both sides.
As far as Mollie goes, I could make an exception to my "no more than" 3 rule for her. I've not spoken to her long enough to really make any judgements, but she doesn't strike me as a malicious person. If you speak to her in real life, tell her to check her e-mail more often ><
I do have female contact, but usually end up "a brother." Not having a job/car/still living at home right now doesn't help either. Oh, and I prefer not to meet women at bars. Libraries maybe, but not bars. Besides, I'm focusing on career right now anyway, once that's taken care of everything else will fall into place. And I always have a few tricks up my sleeve.
Oh yes I agree. I hate the whole bar-scene.
Getting along with girls, the attraction, and all that, usually comes naturally. And in bars it's all just so...forced.
I met a girl in a library one, she was awesome.
I'll tell her, me and her see eachother atleast a few times a week. She's quite special if you ask me ^^.
I'll be going to the same school aswell soon C:
I can imagine how you'll feel...like you won't be good enough. You don't feel secure about your own sexual abilities thus you think others are better.
Trust me on this though. If you'll find her pleasure, more important then yours, you'll be fine and she'll enjoy it more then you think.
If a girl slept with 40 different dudes (whoring out much?) she probably slept with randomers in bars.
Those people are often selfish simpletons, lasting for not more then 5 minutes fucking only for their goal to fuck.
Now you come in. You want to please her, you want to give her the best time she ever had. And you will.
She's used to selfish men who fuck to cum, but you...you're different. You want to please and, and please her you shall.
She is an incredible person, at least what I know of her so far. You can tell her I said that lol.
I always think about the woman first. It is part of the reason I get turned down. "You're too nice, I need someone not as safe...someone a little more adventurous. But we can still be friends, I really want that" --Story of my life basically. Most women 10-28 prefer a "bad boy" type of guy. I'm a fat nerd that is nice. So the complete opposite what females are attracted to. (I've only met 1 that doesn't like "bad boys" and prefers the safer nerdier guy, and you talk to her often...)
The 40 + girl did it with her co-workers because she was bored, a mechanic to get her car fixed for free, blah blah. She claims she wants a relationship, but i told her as long as her legs are open, she won't find it. She didn't listen. Ohwell. I have better people to spend my time talking to.
If I could give someone the world, I would. Sure I have some different ideas about raising a family...but that doesn't mean I wouldn't give them all everything of me. Its also partly why I'm not actively seeking out a relationship right now. Part of giving my everything is sharing material goods too, and not being able to afford that cruise, or car, or dinner and a movie, or trip to a museum makes me feel ashamed. I guess i want someone I can share my life with, and they can share theirs with me. It goes beyond "just someone there."
Hmm. I wonder. How come you want me to pass everything onto her?
Anyway.
Mollie's type...variates. There's me, and some other people.
I guess me and her are alike that way, we're both open minded and our taste is very wide.
I don't think either me, or she has a certain "type".
Anyway, you sound like a great guy tbh.
I guess we think alike, thinking idealistic about relationships. Wanting to share your life, instead of just having a fling or dating. We move too far, for the other person.
Correct me if I'm wrong here.
We're alike in alot of ways you know, regarding your view on things.
She said she wanted to use your facebook to talk to me, but that I should ask you. I certainly don't want to be bothersome so don't worry about it.
Did you mean that you move far enough that it tends to end up hurting you in the end when the feeling isn't reciprocated? If so, yes.
I'm not sure we agree on everything, but then again I don't know much about you other than what you've recently said. But by the vagueness of your comment, I think we do agree on that.
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Err... why? What is so different about a women after she has had sex? Or a man for that matter? I could understand the novelty of being the first person somebody has has with, that is very hot. But to genuinely lose interest in a person because they have had sex with multiple people before... that is odd to me. Care to enlighten me?
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It is an experience issue for me. I'm not very experienced, and I expect the person I'm with to want to be curious about things sexually. Partly because it would allow me to explore them, and allow them to explore me so we both learn what feels good and doesn't together. Not someone who already knows what they like. It also has something to do with expectations. That one person that rocked their world...I wouldn't even remotely be capable of measuring up to that. And then it comes down to size. If they've been with a vast number of people, they'll have a specific size in mind they want. Again, I know I don't add up in that department.
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Wow, that's actually very insightful. I'd say I agree with you that discovering your partner as they discover you sounds amazing.
But as for size, it really isn't a big deal. Sure, the minority of members that happen to be large may physically be a bit more satisfying to some women (up to a certain point that varies woman to woman). But great sex is not all about physical pleasure. Society has made the idea of having a large member FAR overrated. I recommend this article:
http://www.sexpertslounge.com/2012/07/08/the-components-of-magnificent-sex/
Is it going to be the same when you have had more experience?
You can't really be picky though. I got a friend, Mollie. And on one of her articles I read that you were surprised, like it doesn't happen often that a girl talks to you.
My point is, you don't have alot of female contact. Can you really be this picky?
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Well it also depends on some other factors. If the above mentioned things weren't a concern to her, our personalities were compatible, and we've known each other for a long time (over 7 months as an example) the chances she would let me explore her are increased/ I would be willing to be with her.
I have a few good female friends. One has lesser experience and cares more about the emotions she experiences with people. Another has 40+ guys experience, and is looking for a specific size, stamina, and even body shape. So I've seen both sides.
As far as Mollie goes, I could make an exception to my "no more than" 3 rule for her. I've not spoken to her long enough to really make any judgements, but she doesn't strike me as a malicious person. If you speak to her in real life, tell her to check her e-mail more often ><
I do have female contact, but usually end up "a brother." Not having a job/car/still living at home right now doesn't help either. Oh, and I prefer not to meet women at bars. Libraries maybe, but not bars. Besides, I'm focusing on career right now anyway, once that's taken care of everything else will fall into place. And I always have a few tricks up my sleeve.
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Oh yes I agree. I hate the whole bar-scene.
Getting along with girls, the attraction, and all that, usually comes naturally. And in bars it's all just so...forced.
I met a girl in a library one, she was awesome.
I'll tell her, me and her see eachother atleast a few times a week. She's quite special if you ask me ^^.
I'll be going to the same school aswell soon C:
I can imagine how you'll feel...like you won't be good enough. You don't feel secure about your own sexual abilities thus you think others are better.
Trust me on this though. If you'll find her pleasure, more important then yours, you'll be fine and she'll enjoy it more then you think.
If a girl slept with 40 different dudes (whoring out much?) she probably slept with randomers in bars.
Those people are often selfish simpletons, lasting for not more then 5 minutes fucking only for their goal to fuck.
Now you come in. You want to please her, you want to give her the best time she ever had. And you will.
She's used to selfish men who fuck to cum, but you...you're different. You want to please and, and please her you shall.
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She is an incredible person, at least what I know of her so far. You can tell her I said that lol.
I always think about the woman first. It is part of the reason I get turned down. "You're too nice, I need someone not as safe...someone a little more adventurous. But we can still be friends, I really want that" --Story of my life basically. Most women 10-28 prefer a "bad boy" type of guy. I'm a fat nerd that is nice. So the complete opposite what females are attracted to. (I've only met 1 that doesn't like "bad boys" and prefers the safer nerdier guy, and you talk to her often...)
The 40 + girl did it with her co-workers because she was bored, a mechanic to get her car fixed for free, blah blah. She claims she wants a relationship, but i told her as long as her legs are open, she won't find it. She didn't listen. Ohwell. I have better people to spend my time talking to.
If I could give someone the world, I would. Sure I have some different ideas about raising a family...but that doesn't mean I wouldn't give them all everything of me. Its also partly why I'm not actively seeking out a relationship right now. Part of giving my everything is sharing material goods too, and not being able to afford that cruise, or car, or dinner and a movie, or trip to a museum makes me feel ashamed. I guess i want someone I can share my life with, and they can share theirs with me. It goes beyond "just someone there."
lol you can tell her all that too.
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Hmm. I wonder. How come you want me to pass everything onto her?
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Mollie's type...variates. There's me, and some other people.
I guess me and her are alike that way, we're both open minded and our taste is very wide.
I don't think either me, or she has a certain "type".
Anyway, you sound like a great guy tbh.
I guess we think alike, thinking idealistic about relationships. Wanting to share your life, instead of just having a fling or dating. We move too far, for the other person.
Correct me if I'm wrong here.
We're alike in alot of ways you know, regarding your view on things.
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She said she wanted to use your facebook to talk to me, but that I should ask you. I certainly don't want to be bothersome so don't worry about it.
Did you mean that you move far enough that it tends to end up hurting you in the end when the feeling isn't reciprocated? If so, yes.
I'm not sure we agree on everything, but then again I don't know much about you other than what you've recently said. But by the vagueness of your comment, I think we do agree on that.