I don't understand people who feel better by crying. From my experience, the way to feel better is to stop crying and watch YouTube videos. Crying makes you dwell on the cause of your crying. Watching funny YouTube videos makes you laugh and forget about what made you cry, allowing you to look at your situation later in a much less emotional state.
Watching videos and stuff just distracts you from the issue. It's like the same thing as eating your emotions, except you're using dopamine and serotonin instead of food.
Crying it out let's you feel how bad it hurts, and it's okay because you're letting it happen. It's not like another person is antagonizing you, you're relaxing yourself enough to let those waves of emotions wash across your body.
When you're done and still mentally strong, it can't hurt you again, not on that level. It really puts things in perspective.
Ignoring it to watch YouTube or whatever just leaves a bad taste in your mouth any time you think of it again.
I disagree. The purpose is to distract you. You stop thinking about it and have fun for a bit, then when you look back you're not sad about it anymore. Since you're no longer sad about it, you can think about it without feeling nearly as sad. It's the original wave of sadness that is the strongest, so any sadness you feel looking at it again is a far lesser sadness.
You think it's better not to experience life? To endeavor to not understand yourself better?
When you're sad and going through all of those emotions and your brain is releasing its chemicals, you're gonna understand all of the intimate details and make much better rationalizations and integrations.
If you put it off until you forget things, you're not learning anything. You're not gonna figure out what put you in that situation, what to avoid and look out for in the future, how to navigate situations. That's not taking responsibility at all. It's letting your mind go blank so backwards rationalization can set in.
You don't put it off until you forget. You only it off for a small amount of time: a few days for really big things, and a hour or two for smaller things.
You can forget a lot in a few days, and a few hours. Short term memory is just less than an hour; how much stuff do you not remember each hour?
If you have the capacity to cry, like if you can do it and not be disturbed, or maybe only have to interact with someone fond of you, then you should do it. You can honestly feel, I'm talking really feeling stronger than before. I've ignored stuff too and all that's done is give me experiences I could never incorporate into my life and it gives rise to defense mechanisms galore.
Rubbing alcohol stings on fresh scrapes, but it protects you from infection, right?
Human beings wouldn't have crying as an emotional response if we weren't supposed to use it as such. It's not healthy to constantly avoid negative emotions.
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I don't understand people who feel better by crying. From my experience, the way to feel better is to stop crying and watch YouTube videos. Crying makes you dwell on the cause of your crying. Watching funny YouTube videos makes you laugh and forget about what made you cry, allowing you to look at your situation later in a much less emotional state.
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Watching videos and stuff just distracts you from the issue. It's like the same thing as eating your emotions, except you're using dopamine and serotonin instead of food.
Crying it out let's you feel how bad it hurts, and it's okay because you're letting it happen. It's not like another person is antagonizing you, you're relaxing yourself enough to let those waves of emotions wash across your body.
When you're done and still mentally strong, it can't hurt you again, not on that level. It really puts things in perspective.
Ignoring it to watch YouTube or whatever just leaves a bad taste in your mouth any time you think of it again.
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I disagree. The purpose is to distract you. You stop thinking about it and have fun for a bit, then when you look back you're not sad about it anymore. Since you're no longer sad about it, you can think about it without feeling nearly as sad. It's the original wave of sadness that is the strongest, so any sadness you feel looking at it again is a far lesser sadness.
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You think it's better not to experience life? To endeavor to not understand yourself better?
When you're sad and going through all of those emotions and your brain is releasing its chemicals, you're gonna understand all of the intimate details and make much better rationalizations and integrations.
If you put it off until you forget things, you're not learning anything. You're not gonna figure out what put you in that situation, what to avoid and look out for in the future, how to navigate situations. That's not taking responsibility at all. It's letting your mind go blank so backwards rationalization can set in.
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You don't put it off until you forget. You only it off for a small amount of time: a few days for really big things, and a hour or two for smaller things.
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You can forget a lot in a few days, and a few hours. Short term memory is just less than an hour; how much stuff do you not remember each hour?
If you have the capacity to cry, like if you can do it and not be disturbed, or maybe only have to interact with someone fond of you, then you should do it. You can honestly feel, I'm talking really feeling stronger than before. I've ignored stuff too and all that's done is give me experiences I could never incorporate into my life and it gives rise to defense mechanisms galore.
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I suppose that you think your way; I think mine. I don't think either of us will convince eachother.
Human beings wouldn't have crying as an emotional response if we weren't supposed to use it as such. It's not healthy to constantly avoid negative emotions.
Tears of sorrow contain higher levels of stress hormones than other kinds of tears, hence the catharsis people can feel after crying.