Feeling anxiety over thinking my ex might try to re-enter my life

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26 Male here.

I had gotten over the break-up, but my ex sent me a text a few weeks ago and it shook me up more than I thought it would.

Our relationship was good, she broke up due to her having schooling out of state and I couldn't afford to move due to family and my job. We kept dating but the long distance wasn't working out for either of us unfortunately.

There was something that makes me uncomfortable thinking back at our relationship though. Early on during our relationship when we were living together, she asked if she should do something devious to one of her exes, and send him a text to make him upset.

I told her that I didn't think that was right, and I talked her out of it, which didn't need much talking out of, but still. She said that relationship was really abusive so that's why she was going to do it.

I thought it was a little odd but now, I had gotten a text a few weeks ago out of the blue from her. Our relationship was very healthy, but I think back to that moment sometimes now that we're through.

The text she sent to me wasn't anything unnerving in its context, but it was clear her intent was that she wanted to talk more and it affected me physically.

I got over it, but then a few days ago a friend of mine brought her up and now I'm feeling physically ill again and afraid she might try to contact me again, or even worse try to somehow ruin my life eventually.

Is this a normal feeling to have? I'm sure if I give it more time, I will feel more comfortable, but since it's more fresh, it makes me anxious just thinking about it.

Hopefully, I am over thinking the situation.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    3 years ago

    I think you are being abit paranoid. I dont think she is gonna try to ruin your life or be mean or anything. Blocking her would be really rude and hurt the girls feelings. If yall stopped talking on good terms you have nothing to fear. But then again you know her better than me.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    3 years ago

    Tick tock, time to block.

    You have nothing to gain from keeping in contact with this woman and the ghost of her is clearly bad for your mental wellbeing. Block her number and delete her on all social media, it’s scary I know, but you will not regret it. She’s your past and it’s time to make the conscious decision to move on.

    Tell your friends you don’t want to talk about her anymore and ask them not to bring her up, true friends will oblige.

    Good luck.

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    You get bad intuitive feelings for a reason.

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    Just tell her how you feel. She might genuienly miss you or she might be trying to mess with you somehow, it's impossible to know which and if it makes you uncomfortable you tell her that you have moved on in life and thinks the two of you belong in the past. If she cares about and respects you and your feelings she'll respect that and leave you alone.

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