Feel distant from stepdaughter.?

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My step daughter is 4 & my bio daughter is 5. I feel like my husband is harsh when my daughter does the smallest things. I know kids are kids & they fight and make mistakes but I have tried my best to treat our girls equal. It's becoming a challenge because my stepdaughter is starting to ignore me & cry for absolutely everything & compulsive liar. I've had talks with her in a calm tone & she sometimes tells me the truth. & I want her to feel comfortable to talk to me and be honest. She still continues to lie & blame everything on my bio daughter which is 90% not true. I've caught her lie numerous times & she cries if I tell her no about anything. She cries if my daughter has a toy SHE wants. (I mean a cry like she got seriously hurt) (screaming kind of Crying) & it's always over nothing. I displine my bio daughter when I know she's in the wrong but lately my Sd has been the one to lie and my husband has done nothing about it. I feel it's gets in the way of our marriage and idk what I can do anymore. I sometimes feel she wasn't in our life. ( her dad would of given up on her because of the drama it would be to get her) but I always supported him having a relationship with his daughter.i always the one is gets her during pick up and takes her to drop off & im the one who takes care of her. So it hurts me to feel this way and to be going through this because now I see her and I just get annoyed. And just keep my distance because the way she has been acting. I'm I wrong to feel this way? Idk what else to do. I can't talk to my husband about it anymore because he just thinks I'm being hard on her and doesn't want to be hard of her bc he is scared she will not want to come anymore.

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  • redrainbow22
    6 years ago

    What is some of the stuff your step daughter lies about?

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    • StepmomN23
      6 years ago

      Her go to response for everything is "Sister hit me right here..and I didn't like it.." (crys) & then I'll talk to her about the situation and get down to the root of the problem and she said "sister hit me on accident" & ive seen them and if she just gets upset bc her stepsister has a toy she wants she will just cry and when I go check on her to see what's wrong that's what she will always say. & it's not true. & it's causes problems with me and my husband bc my husband would automatically believe her and get upset with my daughter and she will tell him what happened but he just assumed his daughter is always telling the truth. He had gotten better about it and know she crys for everything and over absolutely nothing and he is trying to get them to both be honest but he is a lot harder on my daughter than his daughter. I feel that's why she continues to be the way she is bc she gets away with it for the most part with her dad.

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      • redrainbow22
        6 years ago

        Yea I see what your saying. By your husband not doing anything, this just makes it seem like she can continue doing it

        Your husband should be stern with his own daughter, and try to get her to be honest if she is lying.

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        • StepmomN23
          6 years ago

          I agree. The problem is he works a lot and hasn't been around for him to do that. What I'm thinking of doing is not pick her up unless he knows he is gonna be home on time. School is about to start so the schedule is gonna change a little bit. I'll pick her up on our weekends but not weekdays

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          • redrainbow22
            6 years ago

            And it just sounds like she needs comforting if she was accidentally hurt

            Not that trying to blame the sister if it was a accident is a good thing, but comforting is still nice :)

            Maybe she just wants some attention, that her dad cant give her because hes always working?

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          • redrainbow22
            6 years ago

            Pick her up from what on weekends? Are you two living together?

            I mean has she continued to lie?

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  • Firsttaste
    6 years ago

    Unfortunately I lived with the same situation you have. I lived with my sister and her husband they had a child together, And his ex wife was no longer able to take care of their 2 children so they lived with us. And my sister was nothing but a complete Asswhole around them. She would tell them that they are ugly and stupid and to stay away from her. I finally told her to Grow up, In addition I suggested she move out. She did move out and informed me and her husband that she doesn't want his kids coming to her new house.I have no respect for her at all.

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    • StepmomN23
      6 years ago

      That's horrible. I have never talk to my stepdaughter in such a negative aspect. She has this mentaitly like she "can't do it" and I help her most of the time and there's times she wants to do stuff by herself and if she can't do something like "buckle her seat belt or take her pjs off" she just crys and I'll starting to get annoyed bc she can do things for herself. I never mind helping her but I've been trying to teach her to "ask" for help when needed it's unnecessary to cry for everything

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      • Firsttaste
        6 years ago

        Unfortunately children will do that to test us,I really feel sorry for you and the situation your in,I wish there was something I can say or do to assist you with all your going through.All I can offer you is any time you feel the need or want to talk about it, Please feel free to contact me, I will help you anyway I can. My name is Jay. And Thank you for responding to my comment. Again I'm hear if you need to talk.

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