For the record I think the fettish honestly has to do more with my own weight gain but it's like society is stopping me from wanting to actually partake in it. I wouldn't mind telling him this part of the fettish at least moreso than me wanting him to gain a little but as I said that's more of an urge and impulse and I don't feel like that's what I'd really want to ever put him through, unless he was wholeheartedly for it. I just feel so conflicted.
You definitely are confused! Yr original post said that when you eat out with him you order unhealthy food to try and get him fatter, now you say you don't do that?
How old is this person? Old enough to learn to cook healthy food for himself and his family? They'd probably appreciate it if they're both at work. Even a couple of meals a week might make a difference to the whole family's unhealthy eating habits. If he can't do that and he won't even walk daily for exercise this is a lost cause
Nah not out in his home because it's all he has. Their freezer is filled with chicken nuggets and fridge has bread, no cold cuts, and cerial. If we go out its sushi but that's a rare occasion. He's 21, going to college but living from home as its cheaper. He pays for it himself and has car payments so he really doesn't have the money to purchase food on his own. The thing is is when I do go food shopping with him (his parents give us their card), I suggest getting vegetables and pasta but then he goes on and picks potato chips and a cheese dip and his siblings and himself always say they need to get a desert for their dad. Need to. Like it's imperative. When clearly none of them need it. Ive also asked him if we could do food shopping together and make a really nice meal and impress his parents but he always declines (he hates his parents and being home so he doesn't want to make dinner for them as they have made his life kind of a living hell). I've tried the healthy route and I don't know my thing is just stupid. As I said it's like an urge. Like in the back of my mind that I want it but I know I never should and I should never do it and never indulge in it. It seems like I'd never even need to coax him anyway at this point but i do want to help him but it feels like ive tried everything. And the food coax part in the begining was mainly because he's self conscious about his weight and was eating barely anything in front of me and I was worried that he might of even been anorexic at that point with no eating. And I mean i don't want my food to go to waste and he gladly takes it. We generally have one plate of food and then eat from it together.
And for the record when he did gain weight that was over a 2 month period that I didn't see him and when he visited at colege it was really a nice surprise on my part and that's how I realized that I actually like this. And that was 3 months ago.
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For the record I think the fettish honestly has to do more with my own weight gain but it's like society is stopping me from wanting to actually partake in it. I wouldn't mind telling him this part of the fettish at least moreso than me wanting him to gain a little but as I said that's more of an urge and impulse and I don't feel like that's what I'd really want to ever put him through, unless he was wholeheartedly for it. I just feel so conflicted.
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You definitely are confused! Yr original post said that when you eat out with him you order unhealthy food to try and get him fatter, now you say you don't do that?
How old is this person? Old enough to learn to cook healthy food for himself and his family? They'd probably appreciate it if they're both at work. Even a couple of meals a week might make a difference to the whole family's unhealthy eating habits. If he can't do that and he won't even walk daily for exercise this is a lost cause
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Nah not out in his home because it's all he has. Their freezer is filled with chicken nuggets and fridge has bread, no cold cuts, and cerial. If we go out its sushi but that's a rare occasion. He's 21, going to college but living from home as its cheaper. He pays for it himself and has car payments so he really doesn't have the money to purchase food on his own. The thing is is when I do go food shopping with him (his parents give us their card), I suggest getting vegetables and pasta but then he goes on and picks potato chips and a cheese dip and his siblings and himself always say they need to get a desert for their dad. Need to. Like it's imperative. When clearly none of them need it. Ive also asked him if we could do food shopping together and make a really nice meal and impress his parents but he always declines (he hates his parents and being home so he doesn't want to make dinner for them as they have made his life kind of a living hell). I've tried the healthy route and I don't know my thing is just stupid. As I said it's like an urge. Like in the back of my mind that I want it but I know I never should and I should never do it and never indulge in it. It seems like I'd never even need to coax him anyway at this point but i do want to help him but it feels like ive tried everything. And the food coax part in the begining was mainly because he's self conscious about his weight and was eating barely anything in front of me and I was worried that he might of even been anorexic at that point with no eating. And I mean i don't want my food to go to waste and he gladly takes it. We generally have one plate of food and then eat from it together.
And for the record when he did gain weight that was over a 2 month period that I didn't see him and when he visited at colege it was really a nice surprise on my part and that's how I realized that I actually like this. And that was 3 months ago.