Falling in love with an unattractive, stinky man

During quarantine I had a nasty breakup with a longtime boyfriend who I thought was going to propose in the future. I was lonely and devastated.

I opened up Tinder and most of the guys I’m normally attracted to didn’t meet other criteria or didn’t like me in return. I finally found this guy, Patrick, who wasn’t attractive but seemed very sweet back in may 2020.

I gave him a chance and we have been friends since. The problem besides not being physically attracted to him is that he has body odor. All this may seem superficial, however, what would be a deal breaker for a longer relationship is that he can’t preform in bed.

He had cancer and lost a testicle, he can’t get hard. He’s d is very tiny (2”) so I can barely suck him. I let him eat me out and play with my boobs.

I go over his place often to spend the night, it’s become almost every other, he’s like a security blanket to me :) I don’t sleep well without him. I’ve been having an inner conflict about continuing this as I don’t think we can be compatible for a long term relationship. There was another guy who I was more attracted to that I was talking with, however I cut him off as I don’t want to lose my time with Patrick.

I’m conflicted as to my next move.

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  • bigbudchonger

    I'm rooting for Patrick, good luck to you my stinky bro!

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    • I affectionately call him “stinky butt” but not to his face, I say it to myself when I’m thinking about his stink. ❤️

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    • MonteMetcalfe

      Ditto.

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  • jrbsportz

    Girl please!! You only with him for security reason,you know both have couple conditions 1 body odor it doesn't matter what he does he will always have it.2 he cant performed and has little dick,but there is other means to help with that (sex toys).3 you lonely and jump for this guy an is this what you want long term,I say no you want passionate sex with guy that smells good and 7 inch dick so seop this goof and find your man cause life short and lets be happy

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  • ellnell

    Well if you have feelings for him i'd say go for it. Love goes beyond looks when its real but of course it can be conflicting when you realize you're falling for someone who isn't your type. Stuff like hygiene can be fixed, he can shower more...Get him some nice colognes for his birthday, stuff like that.. ;) It cant be very pleasent to be around someone who smells.

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    • I think his odor may be a side effect of his chemo affecting hormones :(

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  • Ask Patrick to shower, and then there you have it, the perfect bf

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  • Meowypowers

    Barf. Swipe again.

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    • He’s my stinky butt.

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  • Mini69

    I don’t understand how you can be with someone with BO, that would definitely be a deal breaker for me. I’d be ok about the small dick provided he was willing to frequently put his tongue and fingers to good use.

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    • I think he can’t help it due to his chemo affecting his hormones.

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      • Mini69

        I get that and I feel sorry for him, but I still couldn’t deal with him having BO.

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  • techpc

    I guess it depends on how much you value the attraction aspect. Maybe you could ask Patrick to shower often, use good body wash/soap, etc? to help with body odor? It sucks that he can't get hard, but it looks like you've had no problems with sex so far.

    If you want to be with him long term, do it. If you're hesitating too much, maybe end it now. It's up to you.

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    • I just don’t know what I want for the long term, I’m enjoying cuddling with him and his company. I don’t think Im going to pick him for a long term relationship, but don’t what I enjoying with him to end now just now.

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      • jrbsportz

        See that's the problem? Let him go and find what you are looking for,personally and sexually before both get emotionally involved deeper!!!

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      • TheMightyOz

        Maybe you would like to sleep with me. I have a wonderfully warm sense of touch, and I always smell like aloe vera soap. I can't get it up due to surgery, but my D is three inches. I would love to meet you.

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      • Pilum

        Ok maybe I'm focusing on a minor detail here, but it was in the title- how do you enjoy cuddling with someone who stinks so much? I get it if your SO had a rough day and doesn't shower right away or just whatever but if they just stink to you on a regular basis and don't care? Kinda gross to perform oral then imo.

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