Falling in love fast

38% Normal
41 Comments

Okay ive been chatting with this girl online. She is from the UK,very pretty, twenty and yeah she is real we video chatted. We fell in love after a week or two of chatting as we want the same things and have similar interest. She is willing to move here if we get that far in the relationship so my question is it wrong to fall deeply in love this fast ive never felt so strongly for a girl before.

Voting Results
38% Normal
Based on 13 votes (5 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 41 )
  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    It's not wrong it's just risky as fuck. I wouldn't pursue her if I were you but I'm not you!

    All women are different and you might have found a good fit. But I have also met a lot of sketchy women online. I am not just talking about getting ghosted either. I have been lied to about their age, they have hid the fact that they have kids from me, hidden that they were bisexual ect.

    I think relationships are best built in person and this has been my experience. So if your super into someone you met online and don't see much in real life the comparability might not be what it seems like it is and as a result it's very risky.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • leggs91200
      4 years ago

      Oh yeah like you are so selective. Your standards go no further than if she has two legs and a snatch.
      AND, how long of a "relationship" have you had? A whole month at best?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        I wouldn't pursue her for a relationship. Thats what I meant sir. I would pursue her for casual of course.

        I would only bang 95-98% of women my age group. I have some standards but lower standards. If you think I'm a loser for having lower standards to get more sex, jokes on you! I don't care!

        Longest relationship non-commited was about 5-6 months and commited maybe 6-8 weeks depending how you count when we start.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • john66669
          4 years ago

          yeah youre pathetic doesnormalmatter

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          1
          1
            -
          • d0esnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            Calling people pathetic when you are really just jealous how much they get laid is not a good way to portray yourself, sir.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
              -
            • john66669
              4 years ago

              im not jealous I feel bad you don't know real love and think youre a nasty fuck

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              0
              0
      • john66669
        4 years ago

        not true yes I was after only sex you're 100% right I would've fucked just about any woman and its been a very short time we've been dating eight days to be exact but in those days weve both stayed up almost all night chatting sometimes through video we have similar interest views likes dislikes and wants in life I didn't expect to find a girlfriend so I was after meaningless sex as every girl ive ever loved has either never felt the same or broke my heart I'm open to love
        just thought I would never find it so I put a guard up trying to only seek sex I know it hasn't been long yet she loves me and I love her sorry for making you think so low of me its just hard for me to seek out a relationship due to this stuff yes im committed to her now

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • leggs91200
          4 years ago

          Holy shit you are arguing with yourself on alt accounts?

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • john66669
            4 years ago

            no others but whatever

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
    • john66669
      4 years ago

      yeah I know its a risk and I hope shes as great as she seems she says shell visit soon

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Good luck mate

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • john66669
          4 years ago

          thank you

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
  • leggs91200
    4 years ago

    This thread is like watching the Special Olympics, comedy edition.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • john66669
      4 years ago

      might be I just reply to comments I get

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • leggs91200
    4 years ago

    Give it about another week. She will just vanish (ghosting?) like most online relationships do.

    It is sad nowadays that a "relationship" often happens only online. How does anyone take that serious?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • Nikclaire
      4 years ago

      If she was real, I agree she would just ghost him. I don't think this John fella is real tho or his chippy, brit, emo, video chat girlfriend.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • john66669
        4 years ago

        im real and so is my girlfriend although were having issues were working on resolving who knows if shell stay with me or if were splitting up well see what happens

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
    • john66669
      4 years ago

      I hope not I tried in person but ive only found freaks so I turned to a goth dating group on facebook I really hope it works out
      she says shell meet soon just needs to get a few things straightened out

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • MrToxic
    4 years ago

    It's quite common to fall quickly for someone, especially when one hasn't been in many relationships. You need to be careful though, pace yourself. There's something known as the "Honeymoon phase" where everything is sunshine and rainbows. Things eventually settle down and stop being constant fireworks. Make sure you two can handle each other at your worst before moving in together.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • john66669
      4 years ago

      yep I get that what I don't get is shes not the type I usually go for as she likes modern music and I like old-school shes younger and I usually go for older so confused as to why I love her so much

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • MrToxic
        4 years ago

        Perhaps your subconscious noticed something you haven't picked up on

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • john66669
          4 years ago

          not sure and not sure why ive fallen so fast either originally I was only after sex now that's changed as words cant describe fully how I feel for her

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
  • cupcake_wants
    4 years ago

    You are young (I'm thinking) and don't have a lot of experience, so I would recommend, don't go off half caulked and plan your life around this girl that lives in another country. PERHAPS it could be the love of your life. HOWEVER don't put all your eggs in one basket and date other girls on the side, but don't be a dog either. Like, don't be having sex with other girls, while promising undying love to this girl. Whatever is meant to be will happen. Good Luck.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • john66669
      4 years ago

      I understand she just seems like everything ive wanted and weve been dating online through video chat she has quirks but shes great im very much in love with her and hope it works out we both agreed while together to only date each other

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • cupcake_wants
        4 years ago

        Ok then, well, I hope it does work out then. I know I had a long distance relationship that ended because of the distance and that is hard because you have the emotions invested and you have to throw in the towel at the end. I hope you have better luck than I did.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • john66669
          4 years ago

          yeah i hope it works video chat through facebook helps weve agreed to meet once she gets her drivers license shes working on that then will fly here I love her so much and shes willing to oneday move here

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • cupcake_wants
            4 years ago

            OK, well keep us posted! Let us know how it turns out, and you should show her this post you made at some point if it does work out, it will melt her heart I think.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            1
            1
              -
            • john66669
              4 years ago

              thank you im doing everything I can to make it work I can see a future with her as we both want marriage and kids one day along with other similarities and views

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              0
              0
            • john66669
              4 years ago

              I will im concerned as many of her relationship post are getting heart emojis by another guy that isn't listed as family or friends so I messaged her asking if im the only guy in her life

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              0
              0
  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    It's not wrong to fall in love quickly, but very unwise to start planning a future together so soon. Enjoy those heady in love feelings, but don't expect them necessarily to last and above all don't change your life or hers at this stage. You need to spend some real time together before either of you make major life decisions.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • john66669
      4 years ago

      yep I get that weve talked over what will happen when/if we get to that point to not have unexpected issues but were hatting more often and video chatting for hours on end now

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • Nikclaire
    4 years ago

    Just a few days ago you were willing to fuck anything with a vag. Hopefully you have told her this.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • john66669
      4 years ago

      she knows I was seeking out women and we both agreed since we made it official were only with each other

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • Nikclaire
        4 years ago

        That sounds just wrong on all kinds of levels, but I am single so what the hell do I know.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • john66669
          4 years ago

          I don't know if were right or wrong but neither of us are the type to play the field were the type to date one at a time

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0