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Well i've been having this crush on this boy for a while now, and I know that he likes me back. Only problem is that he is my best friends ex and I know that he still have feelings for her. Is it normal to be jealous of the relationship that they had? And should I tell him and risk losing my best friend?
p.s
He liked me before they even began to talk.
I had the same problem. I told my best friend the day this boy texted me. I was honnest with her the entire time and she respected that. We got into a couple fights and i never thought she would be my friend again but not a week later we were best friends again. a true friend wont stop being your friend over something like this. Me and her ex are curently dating and im still best friends with her. and at the same time another very close friend is dating my ex and we still talk about there relatiionship as if me and him neer happened. i say go for it. and good luck. :)
Okayyyyy... this is a toughie. There are two sides to this situation regarding your friendship.
On one hand, we don't own our friends or our boyfriends. Therefore, if your friend has BROKEN UP with her boyfriend, he is free game and you actually have a right to date him. She no longer has any attachment to speak of as they are splitsville. The only hurdle with that situation is his feelings for her. He may not be over her enough yet to develop feelings for you. I would suggest you extend the hand of friendship and take it from there with no pressure at all.
On the other hand... You should talk to your friend about your feelings for him and let her know, she is after all your FRIEND and friends are honest with each other. It would be a good idea to do this prior to making your feelings known to him or that you want to be or remain friends with him. If she does not accept your feelings, you are going to be caught in a catch 22 situation where you have to make a choice. Is it worth losing a good friend over a boy that you have no idea will even feel anything for you? In 3 months you may break up with him and you've cost yourself a friendship that is long standing. You can't then go back to your friend and beg her to forgive you and take you back as that's just churlish.
The reason why it's usually not good practice to date our friends boyfriends / girlfriends is because it puts them in an awkward situation where they are now forced to hang out together or see each other often and if there are bad feelings, then it's going to be uncomfortable all round. This type of situation also carries the risk of you ending up the loser in more than one way, because with them being in close contact they could always decide they want to try again, or they still have feelings for each other. Your friend could be angry enough to fill your head with malicious gossip about him thereby putting you in another awkward situation where you have to decide who to believe. Then your loyalty is going to come into question once again. You may even begin to become paranoid and start to suspect that they are cheating on you if their attitude towards one another becomes more friendly.
My advice to you is to think this entire thing over very carefully before you make a move in either direction. I've been in this situation myself when I was young with my best friends boyfriend (and father of her child) and to be honest we ended up sleeping together one night and to this day she doesn't know. I can't bring myself to tell her of my disloyalty because I know it would break her heart, even though they have been apart for 14 yrs now. I will forever carry the burden of my deceit and that guilt is a killer. This guy and I really did have feelings for one another, but we decided to rather leave it alone because of the resulting complications and I haven't looked back since. I am now happily married for almost 13 years. So, think carefully about your next m