Fall in love with someone who doesnt exist?

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I had a hard past. Since 10 years(I am 18 ) there wasn't a day when I hadn't ever thought about suiciding. It was during this time . I imagined how it would all be when I had loving friends and family. When I became a teenager ,there wasn't any boy who ever seemed interested in me , unlike my other friends. So I imagined a person who would love me. It has been more than 6 years now. My love for him doesn't seem to fade away. I love him so much.I don't want to be in relationship with anyone because sometimes I feel I am cheating him. I know this is killing me. But I also know it is the only thing that keeps me alive. I want to live but with him. I haven't spoken about him to anyone ,its all between him and me.I don't wanna lose him.
If there are people out there who feel the same as I do , might be that talking to the same type of problems will lessen our pain which comes as smile.

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  • AngelLoc
    6 years ago

    I think it's normal. I'm shy myself and according to this psychology book that I read is that shy people often fantasize things, for example, a perfect boyfriend or a perfect life--to escape from reality. And I also had this imaginary bf of mine when I was younger and sometimes I make up conversations with him in my head. Sooner or later, you'll have to face reality that theres no such thing as a "perfect bf". "Perfect" may sound wonderful at first but you'll eventually get bored. Perfect is boring. The process of trying to get to know each other, working out problems and accepting each other's flaws is what it means to be in a relationship. You can't do that with your imaginary bf. He may seem perfect, but it's because ur the one who created him, you control his every thoughts, words and actions. That's not what a "relationship" is. You can't control each other or read each others thoughts. It's all about teamwork and adjusting to each other's differences. Okay, I'll shut up now.

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      Thank you so much!!

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  • bob7
    6 years ago

    i messaged you

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      I didn't get any msg😅😅...umm OK send me the link to your Facebook id I will text u

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      • bob7
        6 years ago

        You will find it in your message requests

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  • bob7
    6 years ago

    what if i tell you that theres a shy guy who has a secret crush on you since 6 years but u fail to notice because of the imaginary friend

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      I don't know because I am myself very shy. I hardly had any friends or a family to love. I just can't imagine my life without him. He is now a part of me.

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      • bob7
        6 years ago

        but ur 18 !! what happens when you start college

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        • Deadlife
          6 years ago

          It has been a year since I started my college. Things are the same. I do have friends and people around me are happy but all this seems to add up to his love too.

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          • bob7
            6 years ago

            Just wondering , if a cute boy asks you out , would you reject him because of the imaginary friend ?

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            • Deadlife
              6 years ago

              When are you planning to talk to me😭😭

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            • Deadlife
              6 years ago

              I won't because I want to get over my imagination. The hard part comes after that :I won't be able to feel for him because I feel that I already love someone.

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      • redrainbow22
        6 years ago

        you can find friends :)

        you wanna be friends?

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        • Deadlife
          6 years ago

          Well of course!

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          • redrainbow22
            6 years ago

            cool :)

            i kinda overpeeked and read into your story :P

            if you dont mind, you can tell me your story too :)

            just send me a email or something so we can chat

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            • Deadlife
              6 years ago

              Your email id for that purpose?

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  • SkullsNRoses
    6 years ago

    I think having an imaginary boyfriend is normal to an extent, but I don't understand your fear of losing him when he's imaginary?

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    • fakeaccount2
      6 years ago

      I'm guessing she means losing him as in having to get over/forget him in order to move on in life

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      • Deadlife
        6 years ago

        Kindoff yes.

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      He is the only person I love and the only person who really cares about me (even if he is imaginary)/

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  • fakeaccount2
    6 years ago

    I did something like this then it turned out I happened to meet a guy in reality so much like the one I made up. He was/is perfect to me. But then, I had/have problems transitioning to the "real" version . Even in my fantasies I personally did not interact with him. What would happen if you meet a guy irl just like your fantasy, to where it would be him but real life version?

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      I had thought of it before but that thought never excited me. I did meet guys who were the type I wanted but still I never felt for anyone of them.

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      • fakeaccount2
        6 years ago

        Hmm, what do you feel for the imaginary version that you would not feel if he was real? Do you dislike physical contact, or maybe you fear being trapped in a relationship ?

        Also, I am assuming you want it to be real but I'm not sure if that was actually what you're asking..if you are ok with it being this way, and it's not negatively affecting your life, it could be normal for you.

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        • Deadlife
          6 years ago

          I created him when there was no one with me. I had always imagined him being with me in all my ups and down. Yeah I dont like physical contact much and also I have the fear of being trapped in a relationship.

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          • fakeaccount2
            6 years ago

            Same 😭
            It's not necessarily a bad thing though (unless it bothers you),that's just how some people are.

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            • Deadlife
              6 years ago

              Its bringing down my academic performance and affecting my view of the real world. Does it bother you in the same way?

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  • xfg55
    6 years ago

    I have the same problem. No woman alive is the person I'm in love with. But when they're no longer living, I can imagine it's that person sleeping (with a wig, outfit and a little makeup, to look more like my mom).

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      Then might be that your mother is the only person you are comfortable with. I don't know about this medically I am just comparing mine with yours.

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  • edreams
    6 years ago

    all these date sites and porn sites that have chat rooms is the same thing just more shallow, but no one is who they say they are its all just fantasy. When you meet someone real you wont need your made up one. Imaginary friend or even fwb are normal.

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      But what do I do till then? I am not able to concentrate in the real world when the other is so beautiful.

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  • Helpme1011
    6 years ago

    As crazy as I might sound, I fell in love with someone who isn't real. His name is mark and we're the same age. I met him about 2 years ago when I realized that I was attracted to a different race but they never liked me. So I came up with mark. After a month of just daydreaming of what it would be like to actually have him around instead of just my dreams, I became in love with him. I told one person about him and they laughed so I never told another human being.

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      Same is with me. What I prefer is not sharing it with anyone about my fantasy love. I made a whole new world because I felt there was nobody who ever loved me. Is it same with you too?
      If you want we can talk in emails. I think that will be more private.

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  • Hardinawetdiaper
    6 years ago

    There's a girl on the Internet that I'm in love with, but she duzint know that I like her, and she duzint know that I exist, but I still have feelings for her. I printed different photos off of her from the website, I know her first name but I don't know her last name, is this something similar to what you are taking about aswell, idk I thought I sher this with you😐.

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      Can we talk about this in emails?

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      • Hardinawetdiaper
        6 years ago

        If you want do you have Tumblr

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        • Deadlife
          6 years ago

          Nope.

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          • Hardinawetdiaper
            6 years ago

            Ok

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      Yeah! Very much similar.

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  • KingExplosionMurder
    6 years ago

    YES! WAIFUS ARE THE ONLY REAL LOVE YOU'LL EVER HAVE!

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  • DDJenny
    6 years ago

    If it helps, millions of people love their god, and their god doesn't exist.

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  • Deadlife
    6 years ago

    Ok

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    • redrainbow22
      6 years ago

      k ill get rid of this then

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  • Deadlife
    6 years ago

    Should I be worried with this.
    Bob7 I am a hindu and we dont believe in after life.

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    • Deadlife
      6 years ago

      You mind if I send you an email and seek your advice? I know its kind off weird to talk to a stranger but still in case you agree.

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      • Deadlife
        6 years ago

        Why did you delete your comments?

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        • bob7
          6 years ago

          I didnt they disappeared

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