Expressing feelings on text

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I have feelings for this person since 2 months. It has been pretty uncomfortable not making them know the truth for this long. When I asked to talk on phone, the person said I do not talk on phone much when I am with my parents. This is lockdown time and the person is living with their parents right now. I feel like I should tell them through text to take the burden off my mind but one part of me hates expressing feelings on text because you don't get to see the other person's expressions and all. I hate asking her to be on video call or anything because I have asked her once to be on call. We have met in person, but I haven't talked to her on phone ever.

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  • fleacuos4
    3 years ago | pl

    I'm a girl, and I say tell them... yes its not ideal over text but if she likes you back why not

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago | pl

      The thing is I don't know if she likes me back

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      • fleacuos4
        3 years ago | pl

        and if she doesnt then you can block her and pretend she doesnt exist, no harm no foul

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        • Unknown_player
          3 years ago | pl

          Fleacuos 4 that would just be a sign of being cowardly and butthurt. So your advice is terrible.

          What I will say to OP that I hope is better is to just tell her it doesn't matter what format, just tell her because no matter what the rejection of it won't ever get to you as much as regretting having never found out. You'll be busting your brain cells trying to think if everything she does could mean if she likes you or not. At most getting rejected will just make you feel embarrassed for a bit and then you move on.

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago | pl

    Immature via text. If she wanted to talk to you, she would.

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago | pl

    May as well just do it, you only regret what you don’t do.

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    • bbrown95
      3 years ago | pl

      I agree with this. My biggest regrets are holding back on things I was afraid of failing at, or being rejected for. At least if you try, you won't wonder what could've been and if it doesn't turn out, your situation will likely not be much different from how it is now.

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  • twinklestar
    3 years ago | pl

    Just say it. I had this friend, he would give me notes from scratch saying he loves me. Etc. I liked him too but since he bullied me a lot before, i thought he was trying to prank me. So i just played his game and we never had a chance to be lovers.

    There is nothing wrong with admitting your feelings, through text or call. Just be man enough to accept the result and dont act bitter.

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  • MrToxic
    3 years ago | pl

    I tend to follow the "life's too short" mentality. It's better to live your life knowing what would have happened (yes or no) rather than spend your days wondering what would've been said. While rejection is possible, It's important to realise that it's then due to them. You did your best, you put thought into it and you had solid goals. If it works out then fantastic! If not then there will be another who will say yes :)

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago | pl

    Don't do it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago | pl

      Reasons?

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago | pl

        What are your reasons for doing it?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          3 years ago | pl

          I think I would feel better knowing that atleast she knows I like her.

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago | pl

            What if she doesn't share the same feelings? What if she gets uncomfortable, and chooses not to respond? How will you feel if things don't turn out the way you want? How will you handle things if she rejects you?

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