I don't understand the whole bad boy thing either. To me bad boy is synonymous with stupid, loser.
I guess my second ex husband was close to the bad boy thing. Everything King Midas touched turned to gold, and everything my second ex touched turned to shit, he had the shithead touch. Now my ex's brother was a bonafide bad boy, he was into hard drugs, stole and looked like a hoodlum. Probably the worst thing my second ex did was sit around getting drunk, playing video games and sleeping all day after he lost his job while I was busy working full time. After a couple of months of that bullshit I left his sorry ass for good. I did cook and clean for my first husband, and I'm trying to get back into the groove of doing that stuff for my long, tall Texan, but I never lifted a finger for my second ex husband, and I'm damn proud of it, cause his lazy, sorry ass didn't deserve shit!
Honestly, and this might offend some people, but I probably should have backed off on that relationship after I met his brother and his mother. I guess that was a bit of a rant on my part. Oh well, but I do have to accept responsibility and kinda blame myself for getting involved with my second ex, because I'd had rough couple of years beforehand, and had gone through an awful breakup just about a month before I met him. I guess this is why I always stress that it's good to take a break from dating. I did take a seven year break from guys before I met my current boyfriend. My break may have been a bit excessive, but before I reached a personal low I was content to be an idiot who was wasting her life doing the serial dating and relationship thing instead of working on myself.
Yeah, you couldn't pay me to go out with a loser bad boy.
I dunno why I asked that, my sister used to call her dog stinky pinky when her paws would get all raw from a combination of skin allergies and constant licking. She was a good dog though, a rough collie she was.
Now she has an apricot toy poodle and he's alright too, but he's very demanding.
I think you and my wife had the same first husband. He kept losing jobs and would just play video games and goof off with his equally worthless brother. My wife finally had enough when she came home from work and found his brother had moved in and she found him (the brother) eating cereal meant for her kids she had to borrow money from her dad to get.
She tried to kick them out but they wouldn't leave and both him and the brother hit her, right in front of the kids. For some bizarre reason she didn't call the cops, but took the kids to her brothers house. Months later, her ex and his brother showed up and my now brother in law beat both of their asses to a bloody pulp. Unfortunately, he was arrested, but charges were dropped when the dynamic duo failed to appear in court.
My wife has a very good life now, but who knows what would have happened if she had stayed with him.
Edit: you mentioned his mother.... after my wife and her loser split up, his mother introduced her to a 59 year old man who sold used cars. She was 21. It always struck me as really strange that a former mother in law would try to hook her up, especially with an old man. My wife did, however, live with him for two years. Hmmm.
My ex used to ask me for pot to give to his mom. WTF?! When I first met my stupid second ex husband he actually told me about how messed up his family of origin was, but for whatever reason I thought he was different. His brother had been to jail for something to do with crystal meth, and his mom had had a stroke, because she used to do meth and had abused diet pills. Like I said the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
Haha. Most of us have losers in our past, tho. I had a g/f that all my friends wanted to have sex with, and they all did. We get older and more wise about who we choose to be with.
Well yes, Rosie. It is good to see that you learned from your mistakes. But what was it about your first husband that attracted you before you even knew anything about him? Perhaps something in his attitude? Did he have a bit more stage presence than other guys? A bit more swagger? Did he command attention? Was there an element of fear that kept you intrigued?
I know it is natural for women to keep subliminal impressions at a subliminal level, and not even acknowledge them. But there are many beta males that are good men. They are never noticed nor acknowledged by women until women are about 50 years old.
We guys are trying to understand one of the mysteries of life from the woman's perspective. You are the female at IIN that is most likely to step outside the box and share your impressions in a way that we can understand it.
This whole post kind of depends on you. *silent eyes are waiting*
Wow. To be a creep,and a loitering one at that, you certainly have depth of thought. I am wondering the same. What attracted her to him in the first place? Some primal gene programming? Something in his demeanor that told her that he would be a good provider and protector? I'm curious.
Note: I'm not a bad boy, but I do have confidence and above average strength. Most women I think should see that as attractive, but many don't. I honestly think that some women are attracted to assholes simply because they like being abused, possibly due to low self esteem, which so many women have. But I digress, I just don't know.
Of course neither you nor I would know. Women know but can't find words for their primal instincts or subconscious processes. RoseIsabella is our best shot. I am hopeful that she will give us something we can understand.
I have long resigned myself as a total failure at subtle erotic attraction. I know I will die without the intimate fulfillment that gives life its deep meaning. But I would only want to understand the missing dynamics of this process so that I can understand the failure that my life has been.
PS. When I was younger I bought a video tape showing how to be a male stripper. Only certain kinds of swagger seem to pump body heat to get female attention. I always had the sense that this approach would have worked well for me if I were more attractive.
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I don't understand the whole bad boy thing either. To me bad boy is synonymous with stupid, loser.
I guess my second ex husband was close to the bad boy thing. Everything King Midas touched turned to gold, and everything my second ex touched turned to shit, he had the shithead touch. Now my ex's brother was a bonafide bad boy, he was into hard drugs, stole and looked like a hoodlum. Probably the worst thing my second ex did was sit around getting drunk, playing video games and sleeping all day after he lost his job while I was busy working full time. After a couple of months of that bullshit I left his sorry ass for good. I did cook and clean for my first husband, and I'm trying to get back into the groove of doing that stuff for my long, tall Texan, but I never lifted a finger for my second ex husband, and I'm damn proud of it, cause his lazy, sorry ass didn't deserve shit!
Honestly, and this might offend some people, but I probably should have backed off on that relationship after I met his brother and his mother. I guess that was a bit of a rant on my part. Oh well, but I do have to accept responsibility and kinda blame myself for getting involved with my second ex, because I'd had rough couple of years beforehand, and had gone through an awful breakup just about a month before I met him. I guess this is why I always stress that it's good to take a break from dating. I did take a seven year break from guys before I met my current boyfriend. My break may have been a bit excessive, but before I reached a personal low I was content to be an idiot who was wasting her life doing the serial dating and relationship thing instead of working on myself.
Yeah, you couldn't pay me to go out with a loser bad boy.
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I took a massive dump once and didnt flush. I am a bad boy.
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Are you a stinky pinky?
I dunno why I asked that, my sister used to call her dog stinky pinky when her paws would get all raw from a combination of skin allergies and constant licking. She was a good dog though, a rough collie she was.
Now she has an apricot toy poodle and he's alright too, but he's very demanding.
You bad mothuh fuckuh.
I think you and my wife had the same first husband. He kept losing jobs and would just play video games and goof off with his equally worthless brother. My wife finally had enough when she came home from work and found his brother had moved in and she found him (the brother) eating cereal meant for her kids she had to borrow money from her dad to get.
She tried to kick them out but they wouldn't leave and both him and the brother hit her, right in front of the kids. For some bizarre reason she didn't call the cops, but took the kids to her brothers house. Months later, her ex and his brother showed up and my now brother in law beat both of their asses to a bloody pulp. Unfortunately, he was arrested, but charges were dropped when the dynamic duo failed to appear in court.
My wife has a very good life now, but who knows what would have happened if she had stayed with him.
Edit: you mentioned his mother.... after my wife and her loser split up, his mother introduced her to a 59 year old man who sold used cars. She was 21. It always struck me as really strange that a former mother in law would try to hook her up, especially with an old man. My wife did, however, live with him for two years. Hmmm.
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My ex used to ask me for pot to give to his mom. WTF?! When I first met my stupid second ex husband he actually told me about how messed up his family of origin was, but for whatever reason I thought he was different. His brother had been to jail for something to do with crystal meth, and his mom had had a stroke, because she used to do meth and had abused diet pills. Like I said the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
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Not all but often they tend to be.
Haha. Most of us have losers in our past, tho. I had a g/f that all my friends wanted to have sex with, and they all did. We get older and more wise about who we choose to be with.
Well yes, Rosie. It is good to see that you learned from your mistakes. But what was it about your first husband that attracted you before you even knew anything about him? Perhaps something in his attitude? Did he have a bit more stage presence than other guys? A bit more swagger? Did he command attention? Was there an element of fear that kept you intrigued?
I know it is natural for women to keep subliminal impressions at a subliminal level, and not even acknowledge them. But there are many beta males that are good men. They are never noticed nor acknowledged by women until women are about 50 years old.
We guys are trying to understand one of the mysteries of life from the woman's perspective. You are the female at IIN that is most likely to step outside the box and share your impressions in a way that we can understand it.
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@The_Loitering_Creep I have no idea how you received thumbs down for your post. Completely undeserving.
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Thank you for the encouragement, my friend. But, some people hate creeps regardless of our best efforts to improve the world.
Wow. To be a creep,and a loitering one at that, you certainly have depth of thought. I am wondering the same. What attracted her to him in the first place? Some primal gene programming? Something in his demeanor that told her that he would be a good provider and protector? I'm curious.
Note: I'm not a bad boy, but I do have confidence and above average strength. Most women I think should see that as attractive, but many don't. I honestly think that some women are attracted to assholes simply because they like being abused, possibly due to low self esteem, which so many women have. But I digress, I just don't know.
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Of course neither you nor I would know. Women know but can't find words for their primal instincts or subconscious processes. RoseIsabella is our best shot. I am hopeful that she will give us something we can understand.
I have long resigned myself as a total failure at subtle erotic attraction. I know I will die without the intimate fulfillment that gives life its deep meaning. But I would only want to understand the missing dynamics of this process so that I can understand the failure that my life has been.
PS. When I was younger I bought a video tape showing how to be a male stripper. Only certain kinds of swagger seem to pump body heat to get female attention. I always had the sense that this approach would have worked well for me if I were more attractive.
thanks for being so open and honest. You write so well.
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You are most welcome!
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