Explain the bad boy thing to me

I've never seen the attraction.

For some, perhaps even many or most, it's a case of abusers are good at manipulation and hiding that side of themselves until they have control.

It's very simple actually.
Women are only attracted to handsome guys. Handsome guys can get any girl so why would they stick to just one or be nice?
When the handsome guy leaves her or fucks other girls women will say he's bad. Unattractive men hear that and assume oh she wants a nice guy who won't break her heart but he forgets that he's unattractive and the reason she won't date him is not because he's nice and she prefers bad but because he's unattractive and she prefers handsome. End of story.

Ok tell you why women go for bad boys. It's because they usually have the package and or height and women just being selfish bitches think it will work out and it doesn't. They're bad boys because all the women worship them.

It's all bollocls the bad boys are the cuntish men who have the sexual power E Z to spot he's 6FT and taller usually has a decent size penis can settle for whatever girl he wants so he uses multiple women. Women don't like this because they're also selfish cunts who will never settle for anything less than what they think they deserve so they call these men cunts because they have the same power.

E.g' I wonder why I can't find any decent men'

Depends what you mean by bad boy but it looks like you actually meant "abusive"? There are "bad boys" who are not abusive. As for your question of why do girls like abusive men there is too much psychological bs for me to explain the possible reasons, but same why guys like "bad girls" I suppose.

I think there's a psychology behind it. I've always understood it to be the thrill. Unpredictability. Masculinity.
I think it was Orson Welles who said "I'm not saying we all oughta misbehave, but it oughta look as though we could."

I've read dating advice that insists to always have an element of danger about you, an edge. I can understand that safe and sterile men can be seen as boring to a woman. I think alot of women look for excitement.

Humans are animals remember, and in the animal kingdom the male that dominates other males is the alpha male. I think there is an element of this in attraction; a kind man equals a kind animal not capable of the kill.

I think though, that all this applies predominantly to women under 25. I do believe that when a woman grows up she grows wiser and starts looking more for companionship and security rather than living on the edge.

Go ahead ladies tell me I'm wrong

What irks me is when they complain about not finding a decent guy and blame the whole sex for her not finding a decent guy as if they're entitled to one.

Umm, confidence? Even if it's the confidence of a stupid asshole who knows he is an asshole but thinks women are below that. Thankfully, it's changing. Women are going for what is better (usually other women). There has never been a better time for men to actually try to understand women.

Women want first and foremost to be desired. Moreso than to be respected, or even loved. It is only when their looks fade that they place more importance on love, respect, and protection.

Attraction isn't logical. It's animal stuff: getting the tingles so that a dominant male can impregnate you.

I think people in general are attracted to the ones that show that they "don't care" vibe. We think its cool and mysterious that is why we chase them around hoping they could notice and love us in the end but that's just actually what it is: THEY DON'T REALLY CARE. So if these type of people wrap themselves around the thought that they're attracted to us but actually they're not, we delude ourselves into thinking they also love us which is just really sad.
Sometimes some women think their guys can change, but personality never changes overnight. But just as my father said, when you pick someone you want to be with you have got to do the "trial and error" with them, see to it that their character endures with you through everything, and if they do then you've luckily found that one person who's really for you.
So I guess it all goes down to what are the values women possess that she wants her man to have too that would lead to a quality relationship.

Its mostly younger women who do this. As women mature, they see that bad boy can be translated to 'loser'

How do you define a bad boy ?

They are hot and have interesting pasts..that's the appeal. also the whole I'll be the one to fix and save you and change you thing.but reality is you can't save change or fix anyone into something that they aren't...you end up regretting the bad boy choice..too much work and nothing good comes out of it!

My girlfriend told me once that most girls feels attracted by the bad boy kind of guy.
Don't understood why but I'll ask her and comment here again

Abuse isn't seen in the first date.

Mostly.

I don't understand the whole bad boy thing either. To me bad boy is synonymous with stupid, loser.

I guess my second ex husband was close to the bad boy thing. Everything King Midas touched turned to gold, and everything my second ex touched turned to shit, he had the shithead touch. Now my ex's brother was a bonafide bad boy, he was into hard drugs, stole and looked like a hoodlum. Probably the worst thing my second ex did was sit around getting drunk, playing video games and sleeping all day after he lost his job while I was busy working full time. After a couple of months of that bullshit I left his sorry ass for good. I did cook and clean for my first husband, and I'm trying to get back into the groove of doing that stuff for my long, tall Texan, but I never lifted a finger for my second ex husband, and I'm damn proud of it, cause his lazy, sorry ass didn't deserve shit!

Honestly, and this might offend some people, but I probably should have backed off on that relationship after I met his brother and his mother. I guess that was a bit of a rant on my part. Oh well, but I do have to accept responsibility and kinda blame myself for getting involved with my second ex, because I'd had rough couple of years beforehand, and had gone through an awful breakup just about a month before I met him. I guess this is why I always stress that it's good to take a break from dating. I did take a seven year break from guys before I met my current boyfriend. My break may have been a bit excessive, but before I reached a personal low I was content to be an idiot who was wasting her life doing the serial dating and relationship thing instead of working on myself.

Yeah, you couldn't pay me to go out with a loser bad boy.

Penises

I think it's the passion that that makes them fall for those types of guys, bad boys are passionate but that passion wanders its unstable that's why those women fall for them cause they love the thrill it sends up their spines I bet ur wife is a bit of a thrill seeker but eventually that passion burns out or wanders off as is the case right now.