Ex gf worries

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by my age i shouldnt be worrying about who my partners have slept with in the past.

i know hes had alot of partners in the past, and as a rule, they generally have dumped or cheated on him, so he's not really one to do that, you know?

i dont care about all the others, but theres one. i think im bothered because i think shes better than me, shes 'hot' and 'cool' in all the ways i dont think i am. she antagonises my insecurites (not literally ive met her once long before we started dating), i know nothing would ever happen between them but she haunts me. i suppose i just over think things...

how can i stop thinking about this? i know i need to chill out and forget about it but its so easier said than done.

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  • JeniLosAngelas
    15 years ago

    you didn't say how long you've been dating this guy.. if its been a few years then you do need to finally relax.. otherwise its completely normal! But just keep in mind that he is with you, so obvisouly he thinks you are better and coooler one!

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    • sallypartridge
      15 years ago

      year and a half/two years ish, i know i need to relax, i just ont know how

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  • ThatChick28
    11 years ago

    Good luck with that x.x totally normal but insecurities suck and as females the world judges us, thus we judge ourselves so harshly...it's taken 3 years with a man who's dated numerous girls way more gorgeous and thinner and hotter than I for him to teach me outside isn't everything and now I feel like I am more beautiful than those girls in sooo many ways. There is such a thing as dating someone 'to hot' anyways. Girls who put all their time into their looks stunts their personalities in other aspects

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  • TareLee
    11 years ago

    I don't think we ever quite grow out of that unfortunately

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    something i learned a long time ago: there will always be somebody younger/prettier/richer/etc. regardless how much you are, so ur man has to really want u for your inside first. if your man only wants u for ur looks, then would he love any prettier girl more?

    you need to build the relationship on friendship. if he were a girl, could his personality be your best friend in the whole wide world? just how with certain friends you just click and are
    compatible... and never get with somebody just bcuz he has money.. thats the way to sabotage your own future happiness.

    anyway, to address your current feelings of insecurities, i guess u just need to be certain he loves you for YOU and not for anything superficial, and dont forget to create good karma for yourself by not mistreating him in any way. if u have a genuine desire to make him happy it should go well, assuming he's not a jackass.. lol

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  • sunny_wantsome
    12 years ago

    Normal for me. Shit Happens. No matter what you do, as a bullet from a gun or a word from a mouth never can be returned same past cannot be reversed to stop it. hope u get my point if not "IGNORE'

    Time is the ruler, it will reveal what it has for you so have patience

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  • one_guy
    13 years ago

    Normal. I don't suggest you put yourself down. Be yourself he likes/loves you who/how you are.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    At your age you do need to worry about former partners - but not as competitors, which is childish - but for sexually transmitted diseases.

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  • akasenior
    14 years ago

    In Life we find that our friends come with many different covers, names and tags, men and women, gay and straight. You must understand your friends feelings may not be as strong as yours and before you lose a "long term boyfriend" discuss your feelings with both, you may be very lucky and find the answer is right in front of you. Best of luck!

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  • yafuckendick
    15 years ago

    smoke weed you forget everything

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  • mstyle
    15 years ago

    Just try and relax and be yourself. Even if she IS prettier or cooler, you probably have something she does not have. Sometimes the best looking people can be really annoying to be around. Sometimes the coolest people can be "too cool" and more into themselves then they are in the relationship. Maybe he thinks you are really fun or really laid back and that's what he likes about you. I am not sure. Whatever it is, try to let go of your insecurities. It may be hard, but you don't want him to think you are insecure. Confidence is a huge turn on. Be confident and enjoy being with him.

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