Everywhere i look, i see negativity

I like to think I come across as a fairly positive person. Whenever my friends are going through tough times I really do try and help lift them up and show them the positive side of things. But I feel like I’m an awful person and on the inside all I do is judge others. It sucks because even when I look at pictures of attractive people, I find my brain automatically picks out their flaws. I was never like this before, I’ve just noticed this recently. I miss the old me so bad. I know that this is probably stemming from my own insecurities, but I don’t know how to stop. Everywhere I look, it just seems like all I can notice is the bad. I’m starting to feel like I’m going a bit crazy. Hopefully this will pass, I just wanted to hear some other opinions on it though. Hopefully some of you can offer some insight, or even advice.

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  • LloydAsher

    As a ritual pessimist I have noticed that there is a fog of depression right now. Pandemic is hitting new York and Italy hard. China is sending in bullshit shipments (something I think puts china in a lot of countries shit list). The news isn't helping.

    All we can do is hunker down until our governments open up places. Until then dont burn down buisness and riot because you are bored.

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    • Yeah, it feels like every news channel is just doom and gloom at the moment... not a lot we can do about it :/ thanks for the feedback though 😂

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      • LloydAsher

        Never waste a crisis. This is hitting them hard too. Remember the media makes money selling ads the bulk of it was in local ads something that has shrunk to lower levels. This is hurting them too.

        I would want them to put something cheerful on but a tinge of fear is a good motivator in doing things.

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        • Thank you, your reply really interests me. And you’re totally right in saying a tinge of fear is a good motivator.. I never really thought of it in that way before so thanks!

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          • LloydAsher

            Too much of it is depressing and lowers productivity. So just a tinge. Use this productivity well get some home improvement stuff done. Hell I'm building a sauna from an unfinished bathroom.

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  • Whatintarnation

    My belief is it's what you're taking in that molds your personality. For instance, I know two girls that are always depressed, suicidal, check in to the hospital. It's like bad. They also love horror movies, serial killer docs, all kinds of dark stuff. The annoying happy people I know, go to church, like comedies, Christian music, what have you. Are you taking in a bunch of negative crap, music, news, video games, stuff like that during the day? It all plays a role in our behavior and thoughts in my opinion

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    • Thanks for your comment! I normally take in both happy & sad media, but I guess lately with everything going on it’s kind of difficult to hear about anything happy lol. So maybe it’s all the negative things we’ve been hearing on the news... hopefully we’ll all come out of this stronger though :)

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      • SmokeEverything

        You should never watch the news. Pretty much avoid mainstream media in general, focus on the world around you.

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  • russellnb

    I often feel just like you and I also do not know why. Probably my own insecurities as well. I also am positive and encourage others when they are down and everyone I know thinks I am so up. I had a friend who I could always talk to about anything. We could differ and still be friends. We could talk without being critical towards each other. I would be fine if I still had my friend. I wish I had her back again.

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    • Avoidant16759

      It’s really good to know someone else feels the same! I’m the original poster, I was gonna post this anonymously but I feel really bad for you. Ik I’m a complete stranger but if you ever wanna talk I’m here.

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      • LloydAsher

        So you are an emotional support friend. I'm on the logical side of things but both roles are important in a balenced friend roster.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

    Ive noticed when i hangout with negative ppl they rub off on me.

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