Everyone remember the guy who didn’t want a relationship?

I made a post or few.... about a lad I really liked and was dating everything was amazing then two days after our last date he phoned me and said he wasn’t ready for a relationship... and that if the timing was different he’d make me his girlfriend... and I’d done nothing wrong, and the affection was missing. In fact he said A LOT of conflicting things and it messed with my head a lot. I wondered why he’d done this etc. What I’d done wrong?
I tried to get him back by messaging not all the time but I poured my heart out he said the affection was missing... whatever that means when he didn’t even try anything on.
Maybe he just didn’t like me? I left it and I posted on social media so he could see show him I was doing alright, the hurt disappeared and I started missing him so I was about to message to see how he was and noticed he’d blocked me off everything.... I was gutted. My friend checked to see if he was still there or if he’d deleted it all. And there he was with another girl. He never ever posted pictures of us but with this new girl he would?
I text him, mad and upset and already wanting answers. I said you might as well explain why you lied. He said he was hurt I called him a liar. I asked him why he’d blocked me... he said ‘so you didn’t see what I posted and so you didn’t have a constant reminder of me cause the truth is I’ve found someone else’ I said so you weren’t ready for a relationship with me but you are with this new girl? He said ‘I’m not in a relationship with her’ I said why didn’t you just tell me I wasn’t good enough. He said ‘you were good enough, but the affection was missing for me’ I said so you don’t like me, and he wouldn’t answer so I said what I had to and blocked him.
The fact is I now feel I can move on. But why he wouldn’t just tell me he’d found better or that I don’t know. Why say you aren’t ready then suddenly get with a new girl and plaster her everywhere ? 10 days after he left me I saw he was tagging her in things etc.
Yet he’s blocked me so I can’t see? So does he care ? Was he seeing her while he saw me?! Why did he treat me like a princess and never try it on if he wasn’t genuine ? Then drop me for a downgrade ? He meant an awful lot to me and I did an awful lot for him and this is how I’m treated. Uh men!

Has this ever happened to you?

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Comments ( 14 )
  • RoseIsabella

    He just wasn't that into you. Try not to take it so personally. If he said the the affection wasn't there for him maybe what he meant was that there wasn't any spark there for him. Just try to forget about him and move on with your life. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

    I know it's hurtful that he blocked you on social media, but it sounds like you were being obsessed and stalkerish. I know you don't want to hear this, but "NO" is a complete sentence. He told you no, and you weren't able to accept it so he did the next right thing for himself.

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    • If he wasn’t into me why did he flirt and buy me things on the last date?? He even said I love your company I love spending time with you, we never get long enough together etc. I think y affection he meant hands on but he didn’t take the lead either. I’m not obsessive I was hurt and would rather be told there’s someone else than my head being fucked with.

      Just feel he thinks he’s found better or she’s easy or something so he’s jumped ship.

      He even said if the time was different I’d make you my girlfriend without a doubt

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      • RoseIsabella

        I'm not a psychic so I can't read his mind. Have you ever heard the old saying, "actions speak louder than words"? Don't trust his words, but believe his actions!

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        • I know thanks for your advice ! I just think he’s left me for her that’s all!

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          • RoseIsabella

            Maybe he did? Trust your gut instincts!

            He was probably lying to you. The thing about liars is that if you confront them about their lying they will just tell more lies to cover up the original lies.

            Also a lot of codependent people are afraid to be totally honest and upfront with others, because often times the truth hurts, and those people are afraid of not being liked, because they hurt someone. I just try to pay more attention to what people do than what they say. Also I try not to get too attached to anyone when we start dating.

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  • Aliceee93

    He’s a fuckboy,
    It won’t last.
    Let’s hope karma kicks his ass!

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    • IamaPleb

      Best rhyme ever boi!!!!

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  • IamaPleb

    Well, he could have been more open with you in my opinion. If I were him, and I felt there was no affection between us, I'd ask if we can have a sincere chat and see where we both are in the relationship.
    Blocking you on social media can come accross rude, but if you were excessively messaging him when he kept saying no, then I can see his point 100%. On the other hand, he might have blocked you because he felt very uncertain with how you would react to the current situation. Sadly people take these situations very differently.
    My ex found another girl as well, but bc we couldnt date anymore, I asked if we could catch up for a coffee and just touch base on where we stand with each other. Because I didnt react harshly, we're now great friends and nothing feels awkward between us.
    My advice, especially because he's blocked you, is to wait a while and THEN call him, asking him if you two can bith have a sincere talk on where you both are. You never know, you might be able to save a friendship through this.
    Goodluck Xx!

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    • I didn’t message him obsessively that’s the thing! It doesn’t make sense at all.

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  • LoveDenise

    It seems like he was not into you because he didn't feel the sparks and that's ok. He is thinking in his mind that he already found a girl “the new girl” that he felt the sparks with so he post pics of her etc...Also I feel like you were being obsessed with him and you couldn't take “no” for a answer. I know you feel hurt and all after he block you but it was basicly for a good reason he didn't want you to see him posting all these pics etc.

    Their are other guys out their that will treat like a princess that you wanted him to do that. Do I feel like he could have gave you a heads up of what's been going on “yes”! So you wouldn't be wondering what was his problem and also so you would be kinda a stalker. Stay confident and also take “no” as an answer and you will find someone out their! Hope this helps! XD

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    • He didn’t say no tho! The last day he flirted, bought me gifts, hugged and kissed me...

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      • RoseIsabella

        Maybe he felt guilty? My sister's ex-fiancé wanted to buy her a puppy before he left her. They were living together, and had been dating for five years, and then he says he has to go out of town for the weekend only to disappear for ten days before finally calling to breakup with her.

        Some people are really, really bad at confrontation, and really good at lying and being cowardly. The way I see it you dodged a bullet, because that guy is hella flaky and a coward. Why don't you trust your first impression and your intuition instead of trusting his flaky ass?

        One thing about a liar is that they will always lie to protect themselves. He probably didn't want you to think he's a terrible person so he made up a story so you won't hate him.

        He's probably just a giant douchebag is all!

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        • Of course he’s a douche bag ! But I’d rather people be upfront that fucking with my brain!

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          • RoseIsabella

            Well, I'm sorry, but the thing is that we are all powerless over other people, places and things. Neither you, nor I, or anyone else for that matter has the power to make that guy, or any guy like that be honest and up front. At this point the best thing that you can do for yourself is to trust your instincts, and believe that his actions speak for him rather than than his words.

            I'm sorry that he a was little bitch about everything.

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