Everyone is my dirty little secret

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Ok sooo i'm a 20 year-old college student and I try not to hook up. For the most part I have always chosen relationships over hook ups because sex in relationships is so much hotter and means so much more and honestly I think having sex with somebody I don't know is gross. I say "for the most part" though because I'm kinda' flirty and I love to party. I flirt with everyone and I'm very good at avoiding sex but I get into situations where I feel like I can't say no and I end up hooking up. Afterwards I always feel dirty and hope no body will ever find out what I did. I think the number somebody has slept with is important and I don't want people to get the wrong impression of me so I lie and make my number smaller because I don't want people to know that I hook up so I only count my relationships. Is it normal to feel this way about hooking up? All my friends do it but I just can't and I feel so different because I don't and I don't know what to do.

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  • screaminasian
    14 years ago

    all girls fudge low on their number
    all guys fudge high

    normal

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  • Bugaboo
    14 years ago

    You can ALWAYS say no! But, people hook up all time, you shouldn't beat yourself up about it. Just be smart and don't put yourself at risk. Your 20, it is totally natural for you to flirt with guys, but the next time you find yourself in a situation where you feel like you can't say no, remind yourself over and over again in your head of the last time you hooked up with someone. Think about what it is going to feel like the next morning, that should help you say no.
    I personally think the reason you feel dirty and ashamed is because your not a slut! If you are feeling so horrible when don't do it girl!! You are better than that! Try to find a healthy way to satisfy your cravings! But for now keep your number to yourself and don't hook up with anyone else until you know it is someone you really want to be with! Good luck!

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  • 10min10
    14 years ago

    it always gets out. at least your not the campus bike...

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  • tommyterror123
    14 years ago

    It's okay with a guy
    if your a girl your a dirty slut

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  • earth_lovelies
    10 years ago

    Hey girl. Listen to me. It is absolutely 100% no one's business to know how many people you've slept with. Even your boyfriend. The number will always be deceiving. It only matters if you have an STD or not and that's the only thing he should know. Please understand this.

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  • k1d
    10 years ago

    This is stupid. I wouldnt care. Dont lie though.

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  • tommyterror123
    14 years ago

    sorry its okay *for* a guy :)

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    • womanwhowenttomars
      14 years ago

      why?

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  • smearmyeyeliner
    14 years ago

    Nothing wrong with sex, it's good for the body, it's good for the mind, just make sure you stay protected at all times and there's no problem.

    Hope that helps. Xx

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  • cooldavid
    14 years ago

    Don't worry you're supposed to flirt and mess around and have fun. Just don't think your "secret" is actually a secret... although your mom and dad may not know, the guys in your circle probably know what to expect from you and your friends.

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  • nothing2
    14 years ago

    people might know

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  • Ghebulon
    13 years ago

    Because if a guy has sex with a lot of girls, he is a master key. But if a girl sleeps with alot of guys, she is a shitty lock.

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