Ever witness or be a victim of verbal/physical abuse?

30 Comments

Just a question I had for you all. If you’ve ever been the victim of verbal or physical abuse or have witnessed it: whether it was to a sibling, your mother, aunts/uncles, grandparents, someone at school, someone at work, etc. I’d like to keep this a mature post please. I realize this can go both ways regarding genders. Women can be just as emotionally and verbally abusive to the men in their lives

Has anyone ever witnessed their fathers hurting their mothers either emotionally or physically? I absolutely despise my father for this

Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 30 ) Sort: best | oldest
  • athem
    5 years ago | pl

    Nah, for me it was my mother abusing everyone in the household. Either way, it sucks and nobody could really blame you for despising your father for this.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    3
    3
  • _Mehhhh_
    5 years ago | pl

    Back in the 90s we lived next door to a rowdy couple who were always fighting. It's debateable whether it was even "abuse" by one against the other, given they seemed equally matched. They even fought out in the street the one time and she (somehow) managed to kick a window in his white van through, before throwing her engagement ring at him.

    Then another time we heard them arguing at night, and she screamed "you've been screwing her next door!!". My parents looked at eachother and just laughed.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    1
    1
  • MangoTango
    5 years ago | pl

    Sounds like my family! My dad is a piece of shit to my mom, but I don't like her either. No matter, the violence isn't justified. I can't do anything about it. So, I have dumped my parents. Actually, I have no contact with anyone in my family. I despise mistreatment of others. I have had a habit in the past of bluntly addressing bullies. I just won't put up with that shit because, as a kid, it reminded me of my shit dad's behavior.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago | pl

    Yes. My adoptive mother just told me recently that my birth father beat and raped my birth mother. And according to all my therapists I menifest so many symptoms that it’s likely he molested me as well, even though I don’t directly remember anything from that young. I hate myself and I want to die.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • AntiArchon
    5 years ago | pl

    My ex narcissist bf used to punch me in the head til l get knocked out when l get emotional and freak out about his lying,cheating, stealing and other horrible shit. and l even suffered from vomiting and vertigo for weeks after one night where he made my head a punching bag.. the funny thing is he never punched me in the face and l never had marks or a black eye. Dude was an expert..

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
      -
    • DeeJay27
      5 years ago | pl

      You know what though.. the key word in that is ex. Glad you got the hell away from that piece of trash abuser. One day he’ll find himself behind bars, because leopards don’t change their spots

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      Report
      0
      0
        -
      • AntiArchon
        5 years ago | pl

        thanks:) unfortunately it took a long time before i left coz of my own attachment and daddy issues..
        yeah he really needs to be put away but l still feel bad coz once I found out about the science behind it I realized he's just a prisoner of a faulty brain due to nature and nurture:c

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        Report
        0
        0
  • Checkmate_King
    5 years ago | pl

    Should have picked a switch off the rubber plant

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • Babygirl17
    5 years ago | pl

    I had to leave my boyfriend because he would physically abuse me.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
      -
    • DeeJay27
      5 years ago | pl

      Good job! Takes a strong lady to get out of an abusive relationship! Props to you :)

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      Report
      1
      1
        -
      • Babygirl17
        5 years ago | pl

        I have children and they don't deserve to hear the things he would say and see the things he did.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        Report
        1
        1
          -
        • DeeJay27
          5 years ago | pl

          No they definitely don’t. even though we’re strangers, I’m proud of you for getting away and doing the best thing for your kids. You’re a good mother!

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          Report
          0
          0
  • BleedingPain
    5 years ago | pl

    School is the # 1 breeding ground for abuse, teachers and students alike.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago | pl

    Yes. I witnessed my father emotionally abusing my mother. Had he not gotten sick, apologized, and then died, I would've voted currently.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
      -
    • DeeJay27
      5 years ago | pl

      I’m sorry you had to go through that, and I am very sorry for your loss. Sometimes we just have to ask ourselves how these people who are abusive were raised themselves. It can sometimes be the only thing they know

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      Report
      1
      1
        -
      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago | pl

        I know that my dad had some issues when he was younger. I was, and am able to be understanding of that, even though it doesn't excuse everything.

        There's no need to be sorry for my loss, or really my immediate family's, because we might just be better off now.

        I feel bad for him for his own sake. He went through a lot, both physically and with mental guilt.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        Report
        1
        1
  • DeeJay27
    5 years ago | pl

    I’m sorry to hear that too and I hope it doesn’t replay in your mind to this day

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • fakeaccount3
    5 years ago | pl

    idk, i think they both treated each other equally shitty

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • itachi_uchiha
    5 years ago | pl

    Woow!!that's harsh my condolences dude

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • itachi_uchiha
    5 years ago | pl

    I was physically & verbally abused but those bullies weren't my relatives

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • Emokate
    5 years ago | pl

    Yes.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
      -
    • DeeJay27
      5 years ago | pl

      I’m sorry emokate.. whether witnessing it or being a victim of it, I can totally empathize

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      Report
      0
      0
  • FroggyBunBunzz
    5 years ago | pl

    i have bullies but me and my bullies aren't related...

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • MangoTango
    5 years ago | pl

    RedLibby, that's the "spare the rod and spoil the child" nonsense. You can tell the difference if someone is sadistic or they truly think that they're doing this punishment for your own good, however backwards it may be. It's still dumb. Without bothering to list all sorts of cited research as evidence, just believe me. But you can use Google Scholar to find out I'm right. There's a good reason some countries have made such punishment options illegal.

    Yep... 42 countries banned corporal punishment http://untribune.com/42-countries-banned-corporal-punishment/

    Wait wait, more countries (52 of them) made it illegal -->

    France Just Banned Spanking, Becoming the 52nd Country to Do So
    The new bill says non! to all kinds of violence, including verbal and psychological abuse.
    http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/parenting/news/a42208/france-banned-spanking/

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    -1
    -1