Sure, because what we are attracted to doesn't just well up from nowhere. It's based on all kinds of people who have meant something to us. I think we start with a rough template based on our ethnic origin and our parent of the opposite sex (for straight people) or even siblings, and this gets tweaked a little when we're attracted to someone (tweaked towards that person or certain of their characteristics), tweaked more when we enter a relationship, and yet more when it's a serious relationship. My first and my last girlfriend could easily have been mistaken for sisters. Evil sisters, but sisters all the same.
One time I actually noticed the "tweaking" while it was happening. A girl I had a dalliance with looked enough like Jennifer Aniston for me to link them in my mind. As we got closer, both her and Jennifer Aniston became more attractive to me.
I can even pick out what the characteristics are that make up my current template. A girl with any one of them is going to get noticed by me.
Ever gone out w/ someone who looked similar to an ex or former crush?
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Sure, because what we are attracted to doesn't just well up from nowhere. It's based on all kinds of people who have meant something to us. I think we start with a rough template based on our ethnic origin and our parent of the opposite sex (for straight people) or even siblings, and this gets tweaked a little when we're attracted to someone (tweaked towards that person or certain of their characteristics), tweaked more when we enter a relationship, and yet more when it's a serious relationship. My first and my last girlfriend could easily have been mistaken for sisters. Evil sisters, but sisters all the same.
One time I actually noticed the "tweaking" while it was happening. A girl I had a dalliance with looked enough like Jennifer Aniston for me to link them in my mind. As we got closer, both her and Jennifer Aniston became more attractive to me.
I can even pick out what the characteristics are that make up my current template. A girl with any one of them is going to get noticed by me.