Emotional rollercoaster

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My boyfriend and I have been broken up for ten months (we together for 3 years) because he became angry and depressed and did not want my help. he said he loved me but was not in love with me anymore and became really rude. he kept "loving" me then "not loving me' and tried to do the friend thing but his mood swings got to me. I then cut all ties, so for two months I have not spoken to him and I have not replied to any of his messages... he even got a cell phone which he has not had for a while and said it was strange that he now had a phone and was not speaking to me.... he also said that we broke up because I never loved him when it was he who said he did not love me ... I feel like we keep going back and forth and Im not sure if i should keep uo the not talking to him or if I should talk.. he keeps saying that I have missed my opportunity to talk to him, as I have ignored him, but I have ignored him because he is rude and did not seem to want me in his life.. i do not know what to do. help, please?

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  • sherry
    13 years ago | pl

    DUMP HIM! He is not into the relationship or he would not be hurting you. Find someone that has a clue.

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  • mtnw
    13 years ago | pl

    he is jerking you around and playing mind games. you are right to cut ties with him. he's also turning it around so that it's your fault. who wants to be with a person like that? he'll probably get worse with age. get on with your life and don't let him be a part of it.

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  • mdy112
    13 years ago | pl

    Women and men are so different, but on this aspect we do the same things to hurt one another. Meaning, he says these things to you because he wasn't "happy" in the relationship, but he's now showing he still doesn't really want to be with you; however, wants you to believe he does so you won't move on. Once we break ties with someone we care for, along with share history with, it's still hard to picture someone else with them...like we get replaced and picture all the things that their doing that we couldve done with them to make the relationship have worked..maybe their new mate has something we didn't and we can begin to doubt ourselves (sry, don't know the best way to describe..hope ur following me)

    I don't know why we has humans have this ridiculous trait, but most of us have been there and eventually move on, but string those ones along for the ride even though we don't really wanna ride in the seat next to them anymore. Point being, move on, he'll play these games only as long as you let him and the one that will get hurt most won't be you my friend, think about the gf he has now (as hard as that may be) she really may care for him and you shouldn't want another to go thru what you are with him..u don't want to be the cause of his relationship now to turn sour do you?...he'll do that on all his own, so let him. Hope this helps somewhat and wish you the best, hang in there and be strong..you'll be fine!! ;)

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    • TutorGirl
      13 years ago | pl

      hey, thanks for your comment, i fully understand what you've said, after typing this i took time to really think about it. and you're right, i dont even want to be with him, it was just familiar and it's eaier to go back to what is familiar. But he is not good for me, he was, and things changed and it's time we both move on. I deserve a guy who wont send mixed messages and who is not manipulative. As for him having a girlfriend now, he doesnt and if he did I promise i would not be wondering if i should take him back, I am NOT a homewrecker

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