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Someone sent me a very beautiful poem saying he loved me, but I already have a boyfriend that I love very much. I have no idea who it might be... Should I answer and say thank you? Or just leave it alone? If you sent the letter, which one would hurt you less?
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Whether you ignore it, be polite, or be rude, the person is hurt either way, so it really should be your call. I'd message them and politely explain why I'm not interested. If they act like an angry whiny baby over it, then that's what the block button is for.
Do not answer! And maybe explain it to your boyfriend, so you both can laugh about it! If he found it in another way maybe hed be a little sad
I agree.... 1st tell it to your boyfriend... 2nd together message the sender and simply say "we dont like stalker" add your picture showing your a happy couple....this will hurt but if hes a good guy he'll understand....if he gets angry and continue harrassinh... call a police....
Leave it alone.
The worse thing you can do is assume the stalker is a rational person. Stalkers are obsess with their target, and though flattering to some degree, if you show a stalker any attention, whether negative or positive, they will take it as you loving them back and the stalking will get worse. Do not reply.
Its probably not a stalker per se, just a guy with a crush. Write back and tell him the poem was sweet and you appreciate it but that you are in a relationship. Most guys would understand.
When I first got together with my wife I did something similar. I sent an email anonymously saying that I was an admirer and cared deeply for her. She responded saying that she was already with a great guy (me) and would never be interested. She then ended the email with the mention that she wished her man (me) was as romantic as him (me). We still joke about that to this day.
It's probably your boyfriend testing you. If I were you, I'd figure out a way to find out for sure and then dump him if it's true. 'secret tests' are a red flag of a probable abuser. I mean, if he's really young it might just be insecurity and inexperience, but either way...if he is doing this you need to know and do something about it. Do not put up with it and explain to him it's unacceptable. If he's giving off other signs of abuser potential then best just walk away though. Don't get more involved.
wait from another message from the anonyomous and figure out who he is . if you love your boyfriend try to ignore the messege if you dont vice versa