Dysfunctional relationship

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Okay just wanted to know if its normal to be depressed OR THINK MY LIFE SUCKS IN THIS SITUATION!

1.) In a relationship/ live with a girl that has a past history of mental health issues... have called the cops numerous times on her for throwing 5 year old temper tantrums and messing the house up.

2.) Im in my senior year of nursing school and cant afford to live alone... so i cant kick her out. I also dont have access to loans and cant work more to sustain grade.

3.) she is anorexic and a "party girl" and often stays out all night with out calling home with an excuse the next day

4.) she has cheated before there is no trust

5.) she doesnt take her prescribed antidepressants or anxiety meds...(gets mad and calls me controlling when I remind her)

6.) i cant afford this place or any other for that fact on my own and staying with family is not an option

* hate to sound like im using this girl cause im really not. Ive given all i can and now feel nothing.. if you know what i mean.

* i fix her cars, found her her new one, drove to get it for her, talked the guy down off his price, help her with homework and anything you can think of... she is extreamly nieve and always needs help with even the simplest of tasks

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Comments ( 11 )
  • Savmagic
    13 years ago

    Tell that cheating bitch to get the fuck out!

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  • AlexandraRuth
    13 years ago

    Sounds like you're basically caretaking for her. You're not her keeper. I don't think sitting down and having a talk would do much here, she sounds like the worst kind of person to be In a relationship with.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You Should wait until schools over. Get a good paying job open a bank account. Save $ for a small 1 bed 1 bath apt. And kick her the fuck out. And get her to either a pshyc ward or a rehab. If ur in ur senior year it shouldn't be too long for you then. And then after you get rid of her don't jump into the dating world just yet. Get ur OWN life back on track. Get comfrtable with the new living arrangements and go chill with some friends. Then maybe after a couple months see how u feel about dating. You don't need her shit. And if she threatens u by telling u she's gonna commit suicide just call the cops or an ambulence. It'll take her away. Your life will be so much better<3. ^_^

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  • anonalexis
    12 years ago

    can you try to find her family or friends to take care of her? she isn't really your responsibility but you definitely can't just abandon someone that unstable.

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  • Rland
    13 years ago

    Are you sure there is a relationship or just a conveniency? If you do not love her, leave her. I hope its not that you are going to leech off her just so you can get your grades and fuck off later.

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  • psychobabble
    13 years ago

    I strongly suggest reading the book The Co-Dependency Trap! Your relationship is really unhealthy on both of your parts. Her part being that she is an attention seeking, self-absorbed, user. And your part being that you've allowed this to go on. You decide how people treat you. You decide what is acceptable for your life. You will still be a valuable person even if you aren't taking care of her.

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  • ruralfrights
    13 years ago

    Unless you are willing to walk along side of her through such debilitating obstacles, you ARE using her. If you had your one chance to go (and completely afford it) would you? There's your acid test (I'm not saying your a bad person, just in a deep situation and in need of some no-nonsense advice. Just don't lie to yourself, and don't be brutally truthful with her. Make certain that there is always purpose to your words. Best of luck.

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  • mtnw
    13 years ago

    sounds like you will have to tolerate it until you can figure out a way out of that situation. at least you are in your senior year, so it won't be too long. in the meantime, try to get ready to escape without her realizing it. no wonder you feel the way you do.

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  • steph19913
    13 years ago

    Your too nice to date someone that screwed up

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  • Lizbit
    13 years ago

    Where there is a will, there is a way! When you're ready to leave the situation and/or relationship you'll find a way out. Good luck to you!

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  • JuliusE
    13 years ago

    Grow some fucking balls man, why are you attracted to someone so fucked up? That means YOUR sick. You like taking care of ppl who are messed up, ur even in nursing school man! Think about it! Yeah this time it's gone too far but YOU are the one who chose her. You need to fix YOU

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