Dude, i am not the one.

So anyway this new dude at work is gay. He doesn't try to hide it, he just is. The problem is that I was the one designated to show him the ropes of his job. Now he's hitting on me. I have a girlfriend, whom he has met. I've told him that I am so not gay. Yet he flirts with me like I'm playing some sort of hard to get game with him. Enough is enough. I'm ready to either punch his face in or go to manangement and get him fired. I got nothing against gay people. I really don't give a fuck. But why mess with me like this. And I know other gay people, and they don't act like this. Or is this dude acting normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • How is he flirting with you? It's good to figure out if he is being flirty or just how his persona is that comes off as flirty. I myself come off as flirty to everyone in person (even though it is not my intent, believe me) and it has led to awkward situations.

    What does he do that seems flirty to you? It would be good to get opinions on it before making a decision, he may well be flirting, though.

    That said, obviously do not punch him, you'll be the one that loses your job and probably a whole lot more...Unless he likes that sort of thing in which he is one elborate bastard. Lol.

    If he definitely is flirting, go to whoever is in charge and ask them to tell him to stop, don't be violent.

    Good luck.

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  • What's your line of work, figure out your company's harrassment policy. If you've spoken to him and explained that you find his behavior inappropriate, then I would speak to a supervisor. It's not normal for someone to keeping pressing an issue if they're aware it makes you uncomfortable, especially in the work place.

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    • Yeah, if it's making you uncomfortable talk to him about it so you're both on the same page. If he keeps it up, talk to a supervisor.

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  • Unless you really dislike this gay, sorry, guy, and want to get him fired, be a lot more forceful about your not appreciating his advances, intentional or not. Give him notice that you will file a harassment complaint if he doesn't stop. Then, if he doesn't, follow through and that's that.

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  • just close your eyes and pretend it's a chick with a strap on.

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    • Maybe he's picking up signals of the OP's deeply hidden desires. Desire's so deep even he doesn't know they are there.

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  • just punch him right in the face (or in his balls - that would hurt better). i am not straight myself but i hate gay guys who behave like that

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  • Dress him up like a woman then fuck him like one. Jk, maybe act unattractively around him, pick your nose, fart, scratch your arse and if that doesn't work start reading leaflets about treating chlamydia in front of him, that should put him off.

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  • He's just concluding that you are "playing hard to get". You already know that he's gay. Just tell him:

    YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED.

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  • Go to the company's PR department and file a complaint. It's harassment and I doubt highly that they'll think that you are a homophobe for not reciprocating.

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  • ask him what love is... but say it like i would.

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  • My friend is bisexual and she has a crush on me. She will constantly seek moments to take my hand, sit on my lap or even kiss my cheek. She's a very impulsive person and knows that I'm aware of her desire, we've spoken about it several times. Recently people have been calling me gay to the point that one of my friends I've known for 2 years admitted that he though I was a lesbian the entire time he knew me. I've started being a git. I push her away and ignore her. We are no longer friends, wrong move. I wish I'd explained so I still had her friendship. I suggest you talk to him. Just say look, I may have misread some signals but it feels a bit like your hitting on me. I'm in a committed relationship and I'd rather you stop. It will be awkward either way and he'll be but thrust for a few weeks but I think anyone will react better to this option than if you do what I did and start being a douche. :)

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  • Let the guy suck your cock. I bet you will enjoy it.

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  • just let him give you a BJ.. who cares, pretend its a girl

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