Don't know what to do with my boyfriend "/

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I have been with my boyfriend for over two years. He has been my first love, and the only guy that ever loved me so much. I just don't know how I should handle my situation with him. Well to start of he is in his senior year and has missed 3 months straight of school. I feel he makes an excuse for absolutely everything, and if i'm not mistaken, people would call him...manipulative?

It seems every time I am unhappy with him he finds a way to make me look like the bad guy, and feel guilty about compensating ending it.

I just don't know if this is healthy for me. I mean, im only 19, I finished school and have at least made an attempt to start college and am in a steady job. When he on the other hand, doesn't keep a steady job, and obviously can't keep his stuff together at school.

Everytime I tell him its not going to work out he becomes the "greatest" person ever and apologizes about all his wrong. Then has his parents there looking down on me for "giving" up on our relationship. He claims to be "old fashion" and todays society breaks up with each other without trying hard enough to work things out.

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  • kit-kat-bar
    12 years ago | pl

    leave him!!

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  • am_i_nrml
    13 years ago | pl

    If he and his family are this way now, imagine how they'll be if you married the clod. It sucks to lose your first love, but you've gotten a taste if who this guy really is- and unless you want to spend the rest of your life with that taste in your mouth, git while the gittins good!

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  • stikyfangers
    13 years ago | pl

    Old fashioned men worked their a@@es off to provide for their families. What's the word for him.....loser? Move forward in spite of his charm and don't look back.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Dump his butt

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  • KimmyKhaosXD
    13 years ago | pl

    I agree with everything above. (:

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  • SamuraiPeeper
    13 years ago | pl

    Drop him, he's no good.

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  • BigDaddyDave05
    13 years ago | pl

    Ok first off. If hes doing all of that hes not old fashion, i am old fashion and we do what ever we can for our ladys and if we mess up we take the blame and not try to pin it on anyone else. Your 19, its going to be rought for a while but you are better off in the long run to get rid of this guy. He sounds like a fucking losser, yeah youll still love him just because your young but trust me your better off.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    He's got his family in on the act of dumping on you? Run for the hills & lose this guy and his family. They are all idiots for thinking they can bully you into liking a relationship that is long past its expiry date.

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  • tygeronherbed
    13 years ago | pl

    if your feel that he is manipulative, and are unhappy, that's not a relationship you should stay in. clearly this guy has you wrapped around his finger, and because he's your first love i know the thought of being with out him is unsettling but in this case you have to do whats best for you. from what you wrote its clear hes holding you back from your full potential. he shoud be supporting you emotionally and listening to what you say and how you feel, not making you feel like "the bad guy"
    youve been with him for two years and bottom line, you are unhappy, its beyond fixing dear.
    fuck his parents, fuck his guilt trips, fuck that relationship - dump him and move on. you deserve better.

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  • LisaL79
    13 years ago | pl

    Dump him, and dump him QUICKLY. You do not need that kind of creep in your life. It sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. You deserve better than what he is giving you. You obviously know his tricks. You know what kind of person he is. You know that he apparently hasn't changed since you've been with him.
    If he truly loved you, he wouldn't treat you the way he does.
    Dump him dump him dump him.

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