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I don't care about domestic abuse. In my opinion, she chose to be with that person, and unless she does her best to escape, then it's her choice to be in that situation. Also, she probably hurt the feelings of nice men by refusing to date them, so it's only karmic for them to suffer for their poor choice.
You're clearly someone with no understanding of psychology or relationships.
As for your karma comment, anyone with a grown-up understanding of the world knows that's total BS. Bad shit happens to good people all the time.
All I'm saying is that it's hard to feel bad for someone who ended up in a dreadful relationship because their SHALLOWNESS led them in there in the first place. They could've prevented that situation altogether by dating a nicer guy, but because they felt that the nice guy wasn't good enough for them, and instead the "bad boy" conformed to their standards, then it was her who made the dumb decision.
I understand what you're saying, and I agree to some extent.
Some women make bad choices because they feel worthless and have low self-esteem. Some women are attracted to Alpha assholes and are deluded enough to believe they can tame their bad-boy.
However, some people (most often, but not always, women) end up in a relationship with a manipulative narcissist or psychopath. Those people get sucked down the rabbit hole before they realize what's happening. Once they're trapped, it can be very difficult to get out, because their manipulator is good at what they do, and because he chose them because they are susceptible to his particular style of manipulation.
I once made a post on this site about how I didn't think karma was a real thing. Someone commented saying that I seemed "negative and close-minded" because of my view on karma. SMH
Attraction doesn't care about logic, and women were never the most logical creatures to begin with. But there's no need to be bitter about nature.
OP does raise a good point though. Why deny agency of ppl suffering abuse and automatically view them as victims. It isnt like the abuser is going to make the changes here. Of course the dynamics of such a relationship are greatly simplified, but I'd agree that practically speaking, you will always yield better results by observing life through the lens of identifying changes you personally can make rather than blaming others. This is just a very extreme scenario.
Ah yes, the early morning dump is indeed a classic.
I'm currently taking a sad dump. We just got back in town, and this is my first dump on the old porcelain throne at the apartment. I hate the bathroom at my partner's folks' house, because it's so God damn cramped, and messy. I very much appreciate their hospitality, but the bathroom and the kitchen are awful. I'm enjoying my Squatty Potty, but I'm pretty sure it won't fit in their awful, tiny bathroom that they never clean. The bathroom in this apartment is so big, and beautiful with the Roman tub. I hate small cramped spaces.
I really don't want to leave the Houston area! His family is very nice, but I'm more a city mouse than a country mouse, and I much prefer the scenery and feel of the land here than up there. Give me a big city over a small town any day of the week. Of course I didn't really have many friends or acquaintances down here. We just got back from a doctor's appointment in the Woodlands, and it's so beautiful there as well as here in Kingwood. I feel sad.
I will probably have to drop whatever classes I have that have not been switched to online classes. In a way this shit breaks my heart.