Does he want to be more than just frends?

One of my friends and I became very close a few months ago. We have known each other for years and years and I used to have a massive crush on him.

After he broke up with his girlfriend he asked me to help him find someone new, and as a friend who no longer had feelings for him I said yes. After a few weeks and him talking about girls he knew were not single he started asking me about my sex life.

We both told each other alot about ourselves and this led to him making suggestions about us having sex which I said no to and he would respond by adding he was only joking.

We went away with a group of friends recently where I met a guy (lets call him Mr. X) who I liked, Mr. X and I flirted and after my friend had a word with him, Mr. X stopped flirting.

Later we were playing cards in a group and my friend had no chair so he sat on my lap. And most recently he suggested we be "f**k buddies", but later said he was only joking again.

Is it normal to think that he wants more than just friendship?

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Based on 95 votes (82 yes)
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  • That your relationship has become sexualized even though you are just friends must be so obvious. What I am unsure of is how you feel about this.

    He torpedos Mr X as if he has the right to. Makes lame sexual advances, including the insulting "fuck buddy" request, then covers it up with "just joking." And what I don't hear from your post is - where are you at with this?

    And I bet he hasn't heard it either. So where are you at? Think about it. He doesn't want to be your boy friend. He doesn't want you to have a boy friend. He wants you to put out sexually for him...

    My suggestion: respect & stand up for yourself, tell him how inappropriate he is behaving to back way off & stick to it by putting some distance (physically & emotionally) between you.

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  • Telewheels

    He wants to see your cha cha ... if it bothers you, say it. You can tell him that you don't appreciate his jokes (which everyone knows is a lie, he is asking for it, and then tries to save face when you say no).

    He sounds like a jerk. I think it would be a mistake.

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  • Spiderman7

    Ehh well sounds like he only wants to get in yo pants. he obviously does like you though.

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  • Yes

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  • ChazzBALL

    *are like that and we are not trying to get in each others pants he is probably just horny lol its good ur really open 2 each other

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  • ChazzBALL

    well me and my bff ar

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  • random87

    Thank you all for your advise. I have turned him down and he still keeps going on about it. I have made him stop for a while at least by saying that the next man I get with i want to be in a relationship with.

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  • random_man

    definitely wants you, and you know it. as a guy, i can confidently say that a guy only throws out those jk's when we get shot down. If you had said yes do you think he would have said "oh, actually no, I was only joking"?

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  • MeMeMegaME

    From what you have said he seems to want sex with you, it sweems to me that you are just there, he is probably just horny.

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  • sanjay

    No shit are u blind its like a rhetorical question...

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    • usedtorunalotnowieatcake

      it is a rhetorical question

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  • BigRedOne

    He wants the beaver.

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