I disagree completely.
He is possessive and abusive; breaking up for a while will indeed cause him to ACT like he's changed so she'll take him back, but as soon as she comes back and he gets comfortable again, he'll go back to his old self. He's got a basic flaw in his psychology and nomatter how many sweet things he says or how much he claims to miss her, without intensive effort on his part to fix that he'll always be that way.
It's part of the cycle. He'll abuse her, manipulate her into thinking his apology is sincere and that he won't ever do it again, then abuse her again; the cycle goes on and on.
To the OP,
The only way to stop it is to cut the abuser out of your life completely and permanently. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your children. It's psychologically scarring to them and like Smuffle said, children from abusive homes are far more likely to become victims or aggressors when they're adults than children who had a normal childhood.
Get out now before he seriously hurts you or your children- don't think it won't happen because it WILL if you let it continue.
ACE
does he take it to the extreme or is it normal
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I disagree completely.
He is possessive and abusive; breaking up for a while will indeed cause him to ACT like he's changed so she'll take him back, but as soon as she comes back and he gets comfortable again, he'll go back to his old self. He's got a basic flaw in his psychology and nomatter how many sweet things he says or how much he claims to miss her, without intensive effort on his part to fix that he'll always be that way.
It's part of the cycle. He'll abuse her, manipulate her into thinking his apology is sincere and that he won't ever do it again, then abuse her again; the cycle goes on and on.
To the OP,
The only way to stop it is to cut the abuser out of your life completely and permanently. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your children. It's psychologically scarring to them and like Smuffle said, children from abusive homes are far more likely to become victims or aggressors when they're adults than children who had a normal childhood.
Get out now before he seriously hurts you or your children- don't think it won't happen because it WILL if you let it continue.
ACE