I don't know if this is a helpful story or not, but it's a somewhat similar one (although more extreme - the girl in question is MUCH bigger than you sound, and my brother is more of an asshole than your boyfriend sounds!)
So my brother was a virgin till he met his current girlfriend, lets call her Alice. Alice is beautiful, but she's overweight. Over the course of their relationship she has gained weight further - I couldn't put a size on her, but she is definitely really fat (though not disgustingly obese), whereas you sound pretty slim but just not completely perfect. My brother has been bothered by the weight gain, and has been extremely rude to her about it o several occasions (he has Aspergers). Bear in mind that he loves her ridiculously - he talks about her an annoying extent, thinks she's beautiful, but, this is what he's said to me about her weight.
He said when he got with her he thought she would lose weight, not gain it, and he found it frustrating. He says that he's managed to lose weight that he's put on during the course of their relationship, and doesn't understand why she can't. He says he's seen pictures of her when she used to be slim and she has such a beautiful face that it frustrates him knowing that she could look 10/10 stunning, but doesn't now. However, he also says that he is still attracted to her, because of her beautiful face and her personality - it's just that he wants her to be perfect.
I told him he's a dick, and he should look in the mirror.
Just some insight into how your boyfriend might be feeling - he does want you, he just thinks he could want you more. He has inflated self-esteem, and thinks he deserves the best, and that you could be it if only you lost that little bit more weight.
I personally wouldn't put up with it, but it doesn't mean that he doesn't love and fancy you.
Does he dislike my body or am I insecure?
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I don't know if this is a helpful story or not, but it's a somewhat similar one (although more extreme - the girl in question is MUCH bigger than you sound, and my brother is more of an asshole than your boyfriend sounds!)
So my brother was a virgin till he met his current girlfriend, lets call her Alice. Alice is beautiful, but she's overweight. Over the course of their relationship she has gained weight further - I couldn't put a size on her, but she is definitely really fat (though not disgustingly obese), whereas you sound pretty slim but just not completely perfect. My brother has been bothered by the weight gain, and has been extremely rude to her about it o several occasions (he has Aspergers). Bear in mind that he loves her ridiculously - he talks about her an annoying extent, thinks she's beautiful, but, this is what he's said to me about her weight.
He said when he got with her he thought she would lose weight, not gain it, and he found it frustrating. He says that he's managed to lose weight that he's put on during the course of their relationship, and doesn't understand why she can't. He says he's seen pictures of her when she used to be slim and she has such a beautiful face that it frustrates him knowing that she could look 10/10 stunning, but doesn't now. However, he also says that he is still attracted to her, because of her beautiful face and her personality - it's just that he wants her to be perfect.
I told him he's a dick, and he should look in the mirror.
Just some insight into how your boyfriend might be feeling - he does want you, he just thinks he could want you more. He has inflated self-esteem, and thinks he deserves the best, and that you could be it if only you lost that little bit more weight.
I personally wouldn't put up with it, but it doesn't mean that he doesn't love and fancy you.