Wow. Just got done reading your post. I don't even know where to begin with my reply. First off, what a shallow degrading prick! It is so obvious that he does not appreciate your body, and it is a big red flag that he's trying to get you to change things about your appearance, especially your weight. Weight and body image are very touchy subjects, especially for women. You are not being "too sensitive." Any woman would feel demeaned if her significant other that supposivley loves her and wants to marry her, talked to her about her body like that!
You should feel empowered about your body after having lost all that weight. That is a big accomplishment! You deserve to be with someone that loves you for you, just the way you are right now.
That's what I'm struggling with. He loves and supports everything about me, but when it comes to my body it just feels pretty apparent that it's not up to his standards. He isn't mean about it--or doesn't try to be I should say. He never tries to make me feel bad or put me down. He is a genuinely nice person and feels bad when he knows he makes me feel bad. But when he makes those comments it makes it hard to believe him when he says he thinks I'm pretty. The way he words it is "he would drool over me that much more if..."
Does he dislike my body or am I insecure?
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Wow. Just got done reading your post. I don't even know where to begin with my reply. First off, what a shallow degrading prick! It is so obvious that he does not appreciate your body, and it is a big red flag that he's trying to get you to change things about your appearance, especially your weight. Weight and body image are very touchy subjects, especially for women. You are not being "too sensitive." Any woman would feel demeaned if her significant other that supposivley loves her and wants to marry her, talked to her about her body like that!
You should feel empowered about your body after having lost all that weight. That is a big accomplishment! You deserve to be with someone that loves you for you, just the way you are right now.
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That's what I'm struggling with. He loves and supports everything about me, but when it comes to my body it just feels pretty apparent that it's not up to his standards. He isn't mean about it--or doesn't try to be I should say. He never tries to make me feel bad or put me down. He is a genuinely nice person and feels bad when he knows he makes me feel bad. But when he makes those comments it makes it hard to believe him when he says he thinks I'm pretty. The way he words it is "he would drool over me that much more if..."