I don't expect anyone to do anything about anything, I just am trying to figure out if his comments suggest he isn't happy with my body or if I'm just being annoyingly insecure and taking them too seriously.
That's kinda what I was thinking. I just don't understand how he can say he's attracted to me. I wouldn't want to marry someone if I thought they weren't attractive, his thinking just doesn't make sense to me.
How so? I only mean that I wouldn't marry someone I wasn't attracted to because I feel that attraction is important in a marriage. I definitely don't think having the perfect body or features makes someone attractive though, people are beautiful in their own unique ways. What I'm trying to say I guess is I don't understand is why he would want to marry me if is isn't attracted to me.
Because attraction isn't only physical. He believes your other characteristics (personality, etc) compensate for the body type he isn't all that interested in.
Does he dislike my body or am I insecure?
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I don't expect anyone to do anything about anything, I just am trying to figure out if his comments suggest he isn't happy with my body or if I'm just being annoyingly insecure and taking them too seriously.
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I think it's clear that he isn't happy with your body, but your personality compensates for your body, however he would still prefer you thinner.
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That's kinda what I was thinking. I just don't understand how he can say he's attracted to me. I wouldn't want to marry someone if I thought they weren't attractive, his thinking just doesn't make sense to me.
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Well, maybe he is more voiced with his shallow views but you hold views that are more shallow but don't voice them as much.
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How so? I only mean that I wouldn't marry someone I wasn't attracted to because I feel that attraction is important in a marriage. I definitely don't think having the perfect body or features makes someone attractive though, people are beautiful in their own unique ways. What I'm trying to say I guess is I don't understand is why he would want to marry me if is isn't attracted to me.
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Because attraction isn't only physical. He believes your other characteristics (personality, etc) compensate for the body type he isn't all that interested in.