Does doing big favors for ppl i barely know make me come on strongly?

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So I have a bad habit of helping people I barely know or doing them huge favors not because they asked, but because I offered myself. Psychologically I might have issues because I do more for others than I do for myself, and work on other people's problems instead of working on my own.

I help friends and family too. But that is okay because you know them. It is weirder when I help acquaintances

I'm wondering if this makes me come off too strongly to others? I have no ulterior motives. If I help a girl I dont do it to get in her pants. If I help a dude I'm not expecting money or a huge favor in return. But I feel people will think, "gee. why is he going out of his way for me when he barely knows me? What is he upto"

Most recent example: I offered to lend a classmate my spare laptop (I use a desktop) so that she could complete her lab assignment because her chromebook wasn't compatible with the software

Yes 4
No 5
As long as you do it nonchalantly 4
Yes, you should know them better before helping them 0
You shouldn't help people you barely know it's too risky 3
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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    I guess I'm in the same boat as you. The other day, I spent four hours underneath a stranger's disabled Jeep so that she could drive it home and then to work so that I could finish it this weekend with the proper tools. Before that, I lent a friend of a friend who I didn't know one of my cars so he could get to work while we try to fix his. In between that, stupid shit like buying homeless people a meal when they ask for money.

    Some people tell me it's generosity, some people tell me it's naive, I personally believe that it is simple courtesy based on convenience. I conveniently had a second car, a spare five dollars and the ability to fix the jeep. There is no good reason to allow someone's life to be harder if you can make it easier without going too far out of your way.

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  • Anonymatt
    9 years ago

    Just don't allow people to exploit this good nature and keep it up; it sets a good example for others

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    It's called altruism.

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    You sound like a good person.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Some say good others say naive.

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      • Fall_leaves
        9 years ago

        I guess that makes me naive as well

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