I talked with my therapist a few weeks ago about how I've been trying to be more open and emotionally independent, relying less on the validation of others and more on validating myself by my own means. But then she asked me something significant - why? And I realized that to swing to another extreme wouldn't help, and I should probably try to find a happy medium. You just reminded me of that. There's wisdom in both. Like the devil and angel on our shoulders - the head lies between!
It's funny because it's sort of the same thing you accused Dappled of a couple of months ago.
I think you are on the right track though. Everyone struggles with being emotionally independent, but it sort of goes against our nature, don't you think. Even though we struggle for that independence, the draw of validation is powerful. I think we need some validation now and then. I think the trick is choosing who you need it from.
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I talked with my therapist a few weeks ago about how I've been trying to be more open and emotionally independent, relying less on the validation of others and more on validating myself by my own means. But then she asked me something significant - why? And I realized that to swing to another extreme wouldn't help, and I should probably try to find a happy medium. You just reminded me of that. There's wisdom in both. Like the devil and angel on our shoulders - the head lies between!
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It's funny because it's sort of the same thing you accused Dappled of a couple of months ago.
I think you are on the right track though. Everyone struggles with being emotionally independent, but it sort of goes against our nature, don't you think. Even though we struggle for that independence, the draw of validation is powerful. I think we need some validation now and then. I think the trick is choosing who you need it from.