I'll have to admit, if I were a man, I would DEFINITELY be more conscious AND cautious of who I marry.
In the real world (not on the internet, but the real world) men are generally expected to put up with more shit from women, and to say "She wasn't this big of a bitch/this adamant on having kids NOW as she was BEFORE we got married" will make you sound like the biggest dick-face on the planet.
Not to mention that men usually get the short end of the stick when it comes to divorce. Poor pitiful woman demands alimony, custody and child support AND makes you look like a douche. Not that there haven't been divorces where the guy probably deserved it for being a genuine douche, but there are divorces like that where the man isn't a douche and I wouldn't want to be known as a douche because some woman decided to cheat or because of a personal and irreconcilable conflict. And thanks to that, I lose my kids and half my paycheck because I have a penis. Awesome.
I am not saying that I wouldn't marry or that I would secure an air-tight pre-nup but I would definitely be a lot more considerate of who I choose as a mate if I were a guy, knowing what is at stake should the marriage fail. My husband has a lot more courage than I might. A woman with a history like mine would raise many red flags for me.
Don't worry, men, women have their fair share of shit to worry about when selecting a potential husband (i.e. will we commit to a life together and then once the baby comes along, he decides that I've become too much of a mess for him with all of the hormones and such and decides to find another young hot tottie, will he cheat, will he drag me through countless legal battles just to get my fair share of child support etc.), but I would say that it is safe to assume that the court is usually on the woman's side. As a man, the courts are against you. Choose wisely.
I can't speak for men, but if I *WERE* a man, I would be more reluctant to marry.
My husband had no issue with it, he's a really easy-going guy, like "Marriage? Well you seem pretty smart and together, cool, let's do it.", and some guys I know are more willing to marry than some girls I know, but I myself would be pretty cautious.
I absolutely and totally agree with everything you said. I was looking forward to answering this myself, but there is no need to as it would just be me repeating everything you said.
I can completely understand the motivation women would have to want to be married, but for men, it seems to be a 50/50 shot to me. I know many men are happily married, but I dont define "happiness" as doing what my wife tells me to do, while others comment about how "cute" we are.
I also wana say that there are decent women still out there, they are just VERY few and far between.
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I'll have to admit, if I were a man, I would DEFINITELY be more conscious AND cautious of who I marry.
In the real world (not on the internet, but the real world) men are generally expected to put up with more shit from women, and to say "She wasn't this big of a bitch/this adamant on having kids NOW as she was BEFORE we got married" will make you sound like the biggest dick-face on the planet.
Not to mention that men usually get the short end of the stick when it comes to divorce. Poor pitiful woman demands alimony, custody and child support AND makes you look like a douche. Not that there haven't been divorces where the guy probably deserved it for being a genuine douche, but there are divorces like that where the man isn't a douche and I wouldn't want to be known as a douche because some woman decided to cheat or because of a personal and irreconcilable conflict. And thanks to that, I lose my kids and half my paycheck because I have a penis. Awesome.
I am not saying that I wouldn't marry or that I would secure an air-tight pre-nup but I would definitely be a lot more considerate of who I choose as a mate if I were a guy, knowing what is at stake should the marriage fail. My husband has a lot more courage than I might. A woman with a history like mine would raise many red flags for me.
Don't worry, men, women have their fair share of shit to worry about when selecting a potential husband (i.e. will we commit to a life together and then once the baby comes along, he decides that I've become too much of a mess for him with all of the hormones and such and decides to find another young hot tottie, will he cheat, will he drag me through countless legal battles just to get my fair share of child support etc.), but I would say that it is safe to assume that the court is usually on the woman's side. As a man, the courts are against you. Choose wisely.
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So in your opinion men are more reluctant to marry?
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I can't speak for men, but if I *WERE* a man, I would be more reluctant to marry.
My husband had no issue with it, he's a really easy-going guy, like "Marriage? Well you seem pretty smart and together, cool, let's do it.", and some guys I know are more willing to marry than some girls I know, but I myself would be pretty cautious.
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I absolutely and totally agree with everything you said. I was looking forward to answering this myself, but there is no need to as it would just be me repeating everything you said.
I can completely understand the motivation women would have to want to be married, but for men, it seems to be a 50/50 shot to me. I know many men are happily married, but I dont define "happiness" as doing what my wife tells me to do, while others comment about how "cute" we are.
I also wana say that there are decent women still out there, they are just VERY few and far between.