Do you want to ever get married
Do you ever want to get married? Are you already married? What are your views on marriage?
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Bad work. As much as I'm all for choice, you can render the poll pointless by adding too many options. I mean, some of the options don't even seem to relate to the question 'do you want to ever get married?' for example 'I made a vow of abstinence so no sex.' In what way is that an answer to your question?!
In this case, where you want to 'cover all the bases', you're better off not making a poll and making a question instead - leave it up to people to comment with their choices.
A more effective and simple poll would include only the options:
- I want to get married in the future
- I am married
- I was married but am no longer
- I never want to get married in the future
- I'm unsure if I want to get married in the future
- OtherThat's all you need. Get rid of all the other crap.
(Just constructive criticism, not having a go at you or anything :))
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Well I guess that answer might not totally relate. However it did in my logic. Christians can not have sex till after they are married. Which means if they are married the partner is going to want sex. Even in cases beside Christianity the partner is going to want to have sex at one point. So I would assume if someone was going to get married they would expect sex. So that means they would not get married. Least that is how I saw it in my mind. Also that means I would be excluding a number of people. Things are never so simple.
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Your poll is ineffective because you've tried to include everything. There are too many options, some of which aren't relevant, some of which overlap (i.e. the same person could honestly select multiple answers). This means the results aren't useful and are difficult to interpret.
You're right, you should put thought into your work. But that means providing simple answers that make sense and are broad enough to allow for most variables so you don't have to include 1000 slightly different options. If you want simple and interpretable results, you have to have simple and interpretable answers.
Things can be simple, you've just overcomplicated them :)
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[Old Memory]
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In my opinion, relationships are great. Friendships, serious relationships, casual ones, and so on. Marriage on the other hand is a contract and remember, you are not only marrying the one you love but you are stuck with their entire family. Family will ruin a marriage faster than the two involved.
So, relationships good, marriage not so good.
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Holy choices lol. I'm in a relationship with a guy that I love, but marriage hasn't come up yet, we're still so young :b
I definitely want to get married some day and live happily ever after. Sadly in today's society that doesn't happen as often as it should. But when I feel I found the right guy, and when/if he proposes to me, of course I'll marry him (:Comment Hidden ( show ) -
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I have been married for almost five years. We have been a couple for about 11.5 years.
It works for us, but I wouldn't recommend it for all couples. People who know us would never question our decision to marry regardless of their own personal feelings towards the union.
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[Old Memory]
I've been married for approximately seven years and we lived together for four years prior to that.
We have some serious problems though and I doubt our marriage will last much longer. We've always been very different people, which worked for us in the beginning. However, as the years go by, those differences are becoming a serious issue for us. We separated for a time last year, but we ended up reconciling. The process of divorce seems so intimidating and staying together, despite having its own drawbacks, is currently a lesser degree of discomfort for us than a divorce.
I do like marriage. But, if I were to do it again, there would be a few things I would do much differently. Mainly, I'd want to be with someone that I'd have more similarities with. Opposites do attract, but they don't typically last in the long run.
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I kind of understand where you are coming from. My husband and I are opposites but we have made it work thus far. I can't compare my experience to yours because ... well that would be pointless. But I do think opposites can work sometimes, it depends on what is in opposition. For me, he is a source of strength where I am weak.
I like to think that we are a good example of what it takes to make a relationship work. We have our share of problems, but have always been able to work through them. I have to believe that will always be true.
Whatever happens, I do hope you find peace within your relationship.
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[Old Memory]
That's wonderful you two make it work.
I wasn't denying that opposites can never work, just that they don't "typically" work. It was one of the key points about marital relationships I learn in my social psychology course last year; of course, those studies are based on a normal curve and there will always be couples in the tail ends of that curve who defy the norm.You and your husband might have more in common than you think too, or at least on the issues which matter most. Anyway, I'm sorry if my comment bothered you.
I realize our experiences are completely different, though. My husband and I get along like peanut butter and jelly for the most part; there are other issues we conflict on. It's been my experience that people tend to make the assumption that if your marriage fails you were never in it for the long haul, or didn't have the skills to work it out, or didn't try hard enough, which is simply untrue.
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Oh no, your comment didn't bother me. It just made me think of my own relationship and wonder what we do differently that others may not be doing. We have plenty in common, and the differences may be frustrating at times, but we constantly analyze those aspects.
And I agree, people often associate a failed marriage as just that, a failure. As if they weren't serious about it in the first place. Or perhaps they were naive over the reality of what it means to commit to a person. I think one reason that divorce is more common now than it was 50 years ago has nothing to do with why people get married in the first place. And everything to do with the fact that we do not have to suffer a life in a bad marriage if we do not want to. The stigma is gone and people can choose to end a marriage. In some cases they should end. Also, women are able to live without ahusban now. This has not always been true. Women can decide to leave a bad marriage and find support to do so. Also, women have jobs these days and can earn an income to provide for themselves and/or children.
Of course that is only part of the picture.
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